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Those who are caring for a parent.

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#1
  • G
  • mail
  • 2023/01/28 02:48

Please let me know your opinion.
I lived in the U.S. for 10 years, but my mother asked me to come back to Japan because she was worried about being alone in her old age.
I was single in the U.S. but worked hard.

I was taking care of my mother while working full time back in Japan, but my health started to deteriorate and I realized that I could not continue to work
at the same time, so I quit the company. I was working happily in my new position and was receiving a monthly salary of 250,000 take-home pay.

I looked for a part time job this time, but it is only 100,000 a month since I work 3 times a week.
I am not married so I have to take care of myself in the future and when I was getting 250,000 I was saving 100,000
a month.

I am quitting my job to take care of my parents, so I would like to receive the amount I would receive if I worked 250,000 - 100,000 a month ＝ 150,000 a month from my mother for expenses
but she does not understand. Why do I have to pay
when I don't pay rent and I even pay for her meals ？
? She doesn't think about my life after my mother dies. What will she want me to do
when I'm 60 years old, taking care of her in her current condition?

My mother received an inheritance from my father and has money to spare. But she doesn't want to go into a nursing home.
Is my claim strange ？?

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#47
  • おい
  • 2023/02/03 (Fri) 22:28
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I don't see the topix, but what's going on ？.

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#48
  • ずれ
  • 2023/02/04 (Sat) 09:56
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You're not talking about the main story, you're talking about the people who wrestle with it.

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#49
  • pooske
  • 2023/02/18 (Sat) 14:19
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Humans, by nature, make the mistake of relying on others. It is the same with parents and children. You wipe your own ass by yourself.
If you have money, go into an institution or hire someone. Then you can spend all your money. If you leave it behind, the children won't appreciate it, because they take it for granted.
The best thing you can do is to think about your own retirement rather than your parents. No one will take care of you.

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#50

全然おかしくありません。だったら、お母さまはあなた様に生活費もわたさず仕事もやめさせてどうなってもらいたいんですかね？お母さまとの関係が良かったのか悪かったのか知りませんが、施設に入らないのなら私はアメリカに帰りますでいいと思います。

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#51
  • 子供
  • 2023/06/11 (Sun) 17:43
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You can't count on American-born children.
Is it the same in Japan?
It is natural for parents to receive money
without compensation.
But why take care of them ？
In their old age, they will go to a facility or hire a care giver and use up all their assets
They will only be left with what they need for the final cleanup.

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