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Psychological abuse of narcissistic/Asperger's partner

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  • 鳴子
  • 2025/01/07 06:49

Is there anyone in a similar situation ？
・ Don't apologize even if you are at fault, blame the other person
・ All responsibility lies with your partner
・ You may be good but your partner should not do the same
(I When I get angry, they tell me to control my feelings and not to get angry no matter what. But it's okay for my partner to be angry. Because I'm not able to do it.)

I could go on and on counting. I know there are trolls and messages telling me to break up with them, but I'd love to hear real life experiences from people in similar situations.

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  • 通りすがり
  • 2025/01/07 (Tue) 10:37
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How many partners are you ？
You can't change people, you have to change your way of thinking.
There are different countries, different environments, and different ways of growing up, so there are many different personalities.

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#5
  • 素朴な疑問
  • 2025/01/07 (Tue) 12:14
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Do you enjoy being with someone like that ？?

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#9

My husband is exactly the same.
I didn't know his true nature until we got married, partly because it was a speedy marriage. We got married because I thought, "I can discuss and overcome many things with this man." He is such a good talker and listener on the outside. For several years I have been told that no matter what I say, it is 100% my fault. When I try to talk to him, he calls me a teenager and won't even take me seriously, when I try to accept him, he calls me a liar, and when I shut up, he calls me depressed. When I give them a factually correct answer, they immediately leave the house, saying, "Shut up and shut up, we have nothing to talk about. I have my own problems, but after 3 years of counseling, coaching, and marriage-building seminars （ just me ）, I have never really been able to decide if I want to stay with this person, so now I am moving toward independence and divorce. I feel much brighter now that I have made that decision ！ Does your partner have an attachment disorder where he or she did not receive true love as a child ？?

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#13

Ms. South
Thank you for your comment.
It seems that my partner's mother left home without her siblings and was raised by her father. I believe that is part of the reason why he did not have a strong relationship with his female counterpart (ie. his mother).
I am rooting for your future, Mr. South ！ I am about to start counseling as well. I hope that we can both be on the right track.

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#14

By the way, I had a speedy marriage too.

Passing by
My partner is Japanese.

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I don't know if he's good enough now.

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  • うみ
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I have a very sweet Asian boyfriend, but I get the impression that he is not thinking about our future or becoming a family. I am not sure if I want to marry him or not due to our different values. I am feeling impatient because of my age since I am not young, but it is also very difficult to meet Japanese people here in America. I am not sure if I can go out with him. I am not sure if it is safe to go out with a Japanese person.　Has anyone else experienced something similar?

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Marriage after overstay, green card

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  • 望
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  • 2024/11/08 07:40

Hello. I entered the country previously on a tourist visa to meet my American boyfriend (now husband). My boyfriend became sick with an internal disease and while I was taking care of him, his visa expired and he overstayed. We later married in the U.S. and my husband is now healthy and he has a stable income. I have never worked in the US. I am applying for a green card, but I am paroling ？ because of my overstay and I think I will have to go back to the US Embassy in Japan for an interview.
I am quite anxious because Trump will be president for a period of time. I am worried that I will not be able to re-enter Japan ？ if I go back to Japan because of the alternative situation due to Trump being tough on immigrants.
I would appreciate your advice or anyone with similar experiences. Sorry for the rambling.

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  • 2025/01/10 (Fri) 19:31
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Did you really receive a GC with a 10 year expiration date ？
Do you think the first people to get a GC, including me, received a 2 year one?

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Yes, the card expires in 10 years and I checked with my lawyer and he said it is a 10 year card.

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  • ボケた高齢者
  • 2025/01/12 (Sun) 09:02
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You can tell by the cards you receive.

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#45
  • へ？笑
  • 2025/01/13 (Mon) 21:18
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It's best not to overstay than to hire a lawyer.

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#47
  • 昭和のおとっつぁん
  • 2025/01/14 (Tue) 10:31
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It looks like I can get married now and get a 10 year Grin Card application
minus the 2 year temp.
Thank goodness for the world.

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language school

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  • Niconico
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  • 2024/12/26 22:12

I'm a woman in her twenties, married and raising a family here in Japan.
My brother would like to go to a language school for a short term starting in the spring, but he doesn't have any friends around him who go to language school and I can't gather much information. I would like to know if there are any good language schools in the Gardena&Torrance area.
Thanks in advance.

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  • もっともだ
  • 2024/12/27 (Fri) 19:41
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F1 visa at a language school.

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I am looking for a place where my grandfather, grandmother, and father used to live.

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  • シゲ　furton
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  • 2024/12/09 21:14

It was a long time ago, around 1930, I was running a flower shop in Little Tokyo, Los Angeles. Three years later, for some reason or other, they returned to Japan, but when the three of them were still alive, （ I found information and books of the flower shop in my childhood ） and the address.
It was a pre-war address, "332 E. first street, Los Angeles Calif.
However, since it is an old address, I can only find "maybe here ？". Because when I did a GOOGLE search, it was in front of the Sakura Hotel.
The address of the flower shop was "under Ohayo Hotel" from there.
I am having a hard time finding out where the Ohayo Hotel was located and if it was possibly the predecessor of the Sakura Hotel.
I am planning to visit Los Angeles in the near future to see my grandmother's roots, which were Japanese-American. （ I'm not sure if it's inside Skid Row, but ）

Perhaps there is a 90+ year old person who has lived in Little Tokyo since childhood, and if memory serves, there may be a chance.
If anyone has any information, please let us know.
By the way, the name of the flower shop my grandfather owned at that time was Tei （ MIKADO ）
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  • キビシイ
  • 2024/12/16 (Mon) 09:00
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Before JANM was established, the location was home to the Hompa Hongwanji Buddhist Temple

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  • ？？？
  • 2024/12/16 (Mon) 09:19
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？
The neighborhood was a Japantown in 1961 when I was a permanent resident The owner of FIRST STREET SCHOOL, HOLLENBACK JUNIOR HIGH, ROOSEVELT HIGH SCHOOL and Yagura Ichiban was also a neighbor.
EIGIKU RESTAURANT's son Roy is probably over 80 years old. ？
Safety Hardware Store, there used to be next to Sumitomo Building. Horikawa, Tokyo Kaikan, a woman who worked there was killed
I remember ？ Matsuzakaya, do you remember ？ there was a furniture shop too.
The Japanese town was in ruins then, but I guess it is the same now ？ Japanese people will not go there.

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  • 2024/12/16 (Mon) 11:38
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Another place you might be able to look up is at the city hall or the library, though Rafu would probably be the fastest.

I know the guy who built that place, though we've been living apart for a long time now. He is Taiwanese.

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住所から現在の都ホテルのある場所ですね。ホテルが立つ前に何が有ったか思い出せないなあ。やはり2-3階建てのビルだったともいます。半地下になっていて札幌ラーメンが入っていたと思うのですが。オハヨーホテルと言うのはOhio Hotel の事です。あの辺りには小さなホテルが沢山有り、日本から来た人たちが住む場所が決まるまで泊まっていたりそこから仕事を探したりにぎやかだったようですよ。ちなみに向かい側に帝ホテルが有りそこから花屋さんの名前を取ったのかな？

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  • 2024/12/31 (Tue) 19:24
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Is it near the giant mural of Otani ？ You should ask a Japanese TV company if they can make it into a documentary ？.

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Remittance to Japan $ 250,000

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  • Money
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  • 2024/10/22 08:59

I would like to send the money through my bank and would like to know your experience.　Thank you in advance.

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  • 2024/10/23 (Wed) 08:56
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While transferring money through a bank is generally a safe and reliable way to send money, there are a few points to keep in mind.

Remittance fees: It is important to check the fees in advance, as different banks have different fees.

Transfer time: Depending on the bank you are transferring to and the time of day, it may take several days.

Payee information: exact bank name, account number, SWIFT code, etc. is required.

Tax Reporting: Tax reporting may be required for remittances over $250,000.

It is best to contact your bank directly for specific bank names and detailed procedures. If there is anything else you would like to know, please feel free to let us know.

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  • 2024/10/29 (Tue) 17:54
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How about using it gradually over its lifetime as a credit card account?

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  • そそ
  • 2024/12/15 (Sun) 20:04
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I can't use WISE PAYPAL. I can only transfer less than $1000 at a time. I can't make it in time.
How can I increase the amount of money I can send? ？ How much can I increase the amount of money I can send even though I only have a regular account ？ If you are in the U.S., could you please ask me while you visit a bank ？ Bank of America.

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  • 2024/12/20 (Fri) 11:40
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WISE can send you a million ＄, though.

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  • そうだ
  • 2024/12/26 (Thu) 22:25
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$ If you're going to send 250,000 in dollars, you should definitely send it when the yen is cheap. Today $ is a good day to send money because 1=158 yen. Japanese banks charge about 3 yen as a commission. All banks charge roughly the same fee. The remittance fee is not much. Japanese banks usually call the receiver if the amount is over 10 million yen, and if the receiver does not answer the phone, they will not receive the money even if the money is transferred. Since the money is received on the day the receiver answers the phone, the amount in yen is transferred after approximately 3 yen is deducted from the exchange rate on that day.

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US BANK

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  • とんとん
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  • 2024/12/16 07:01

Does US BANK have customer service in Japanese? I searched but could not find any.

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  • 昭和のおとっつぁん
  • 2024/12/16 (Mon) 08:02
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There is a Japanese person working at the former UNION BANK in Little Tokyo.

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  • ボケた高齢者
  • 2024/12/16 (Mon) 09:28
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The Gardena branch by Kura Sushi always has people who understand Japanese
If you want to call, just say JAPANESE SPEAKER PLEASE and they will connect you to a Japanese person
2.

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  • 昭和のおとっつぁん
  • 2024/12/17 (Tue) 09:13
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If you work at us bank, you can speak Japanese.
What do you think you have to go to some branch to be able to speak Japanese

You're a fool.

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  • とんとん
  • 2024/12/19 (Thu) 22:15
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Topic. I was able to solve the problem myself, thank you.
#3 and #4, why are you arguing there ？.

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My passport and green card have different last names.

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  • 2024/11/25 21:59

Nice to meet you ！

I am married to an American and hold a GC. When we got married, I took my husband's surname in the Japanese family register. In the U.S., I kept my maiden name and switched my GC to 10 years, which I recently received after 3 years.
I recently renewed my passport with my new surname and my maiden name in brackets, but I am panicking ？ that it is a problem that my passport and GC have different surnames.
Would this be a problem ？
I thought I would keep my maiden name in the US, but should I not do that ？ ？?

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  • 2024/11/26 (Tue) 10:18
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In my case, it is a bit opposite.

・ Japanese family register → I have a marriage notation but chose to keep my maiden name → I thought my husband's name would be written in katakana
・ Passport → maiden name ＋ （ husband's name ） ＋ Name and Name and
・ Green Card → Surname

I have been to Japan many times with this.　I have been to Japan many times with this.

It was a long time ago.　
When I did web check in to Japan, I could not do web check in because the name on the passport and the name on the ticket did not match.

Then, after going to the airport, I asked ？ how to avoid the error next time, and was told that I could issue a ticket with the name in parentheses, but then the name on my frequent flyer card would be changed and my existing mileage would be lost.　In the end, I am still having my ticket issued with only my husband's name.

But now that I think about it.　？
） But now I think... But the exact reason why it stopped giving me errors ？ ？ is because I always use the same place.　

But still, isn't it slow to get the GC ？
Does your husband also have your surname ？ or is it different ？ （ that's why it took so long ？ I guess it doesn't matter ？ ）

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#4

Nice to meet you. In my case, it is the opposite of the Lord's. I have kept my maiden name in Japan and changed it to my husband's last name in the U.S.
The last name on my passport and green card are different, but I buy airline tickets every time with the name on my passport and have no problems.
By the way, in the past I have never been pointed out that my name is different with regard to airline tickets, but
the other day I tried to switch to a driver's license with ID at the DMV and was unable to create it because my name was different.
（ If it is a regular driver's license, there seems to be no problem ） I hope this helps.

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Failure to yield the right-of-way to an emergency vehicle

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  • 2024/11/11 10:55

The other day in Los Angeles, I was driving on a one-way street with three lanes in each direction, and a police car came up behind me with its lights flashing, but I couldn't change course to the right immediately because there was a car alongside me on the right, and then the police car approached right behind me, so I thought I was being stopped, so I pulled over to the left corner and I pulled over to the left corner and stopped. In fact, the police car seemed to be heading toward some crime scene, and as a result, I ended up blocking the path of the police car. As the police car passed by, a police officer shouted something to me, but I didn't hear it because my window was closed and it was only for a moment. The police car then drove away. I was not given a ticket or asked to show my driver's license at the scene, but I wonder if the police or the court will send me a summons to appear in court later in this case. I would appreciate it if someone who is familiar with the procedures for traffic violations could let me know.

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  • ボケた高齢者
  • 2024/11/11 (Mon) 11:05
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As long as you're not blocking the path of a police car, you'll be fine, don't worry
I'm pretty sure they'll send you a kip if the school bus stops and doesn't stop when the STOP sign is up, though.

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  • 911
  • 2024/11/11 (Mon) 11:49
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I understand your concern. First of all, please rest assured. Traffic violations usually result in an immediate ticket, but if, as you have indicated, no ticket was issued, it is unlikely that a citation or other order to appear will be mailed to you.

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  • Justen24
  • 2024/11/11 (Mon) 14:51
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Thank you all for your comments. I am a little calmer now after reading your comments.

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OB/GYN in Orange County

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  • Mori
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  • 2024/11/13 13:06

I am looking for an OB/GYN in Orange County.
I would be happy if you could recommend a doctor/hospital ！
I have not found any Japanese doctors when I looked for one, and I'm not sure if I can help with an English teacher ！
Thank you ！ ！ ！

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