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seriously considering divorce

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  • DA
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  • 2025/04/13 14:56

There are a lot of morally harassed husbands in the world.
My family is the same. They say things like, "You are trash of society" and "It would be better for the world if you died.

I am not perfect, and I am a human being, so of course there are things I am not good at doing at home and things I do not do properly.
I know that my character is not a saint and that there are parts of my character that are not praiseworthy, but I really don't want to be told only by you who are a morally harassing menhera.

It's too much trouble to deal with you, and I'm no longer interested enough to fight with you, so I'll just walk away silently.
The only thing I can't tolerate is that they are blowing bad things about me to my children.
Isn't this against the rules ?

I want to take just the kids back to Japan, but they rant about being taken away.
I honestly fucking hate it so much that one second in the same house wouldn't hurt, but I don't want my kids taken. As much as the kids miss my husband, will custody etc. be affected by divorce? Etc.

Child visitation when divorced, or if he got in trouble for taking the kids after the divorce, etc.
I would like to know if you have any information about good divorce counseling and law firms.

Thank you very much.

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#3
  • 録音
  • 2025/04/14 (Mon) 19:40
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If you let your kids record ? them, tell them you'll record them when they complain later, and click. Let them hear it once ? I think they're worth it. Good luck !

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#4

> There are a lot of moral harassing husbands in the world, aren't there?

On what basis do you say there are many ?
I have a husband like that and I wish it were so ?.

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Support for American Universities

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  • Mama
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  • 2025/04/02 04:06

Please excuse my post.

I am considering my child's college education in the US.
Right now my son is in 9th grade and I am looking for someone or a company that can help him through college.

I look forward to hearing back from anyone with similar ideas or information.

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  • Reila 911
  • 2025/04/02 (Wed) 09:07
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You are looking for a company or professional that provides support for your child from 9th grade through college in the United States. The following information may be helpful :

These resources may help you find a professional or company that offers support for your child to attend college in the United States. If you need more information, please let us know ! College Connect 101: They specialize in helping families navigate the college application process. You can reach them at (424) 800-2248.

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  • Reila 911
  • 2025/04/02 (Wed) 09:09
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College Board: They provide resources for SAT, AP, and other college-related assessments. Their contact number is 866-756-7346. For questions about applying for aid and the FAFSA form, you can call 1-800-433-3243.

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Psychological abuse of narcissistic/Asperger's partner

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  • 鳴子
  • 2025/01/07 06:49

Is there anyone in a similar situation ?
・ Don't apologize even if you are at fault, blame the other person
・ All responsibility lies with your partner
・ You may be good but your partner should not do the same
(I When I get angry, they tell me to control my feelings and not to get angry no matter what. But it's okay for my partner to be angry. Because I'm not able to do it.)

I could go on and on counting. I know there are trolls and messages telling me to break up with them, but I'd love to hear real life experiences from people in similar situations.

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  • 2025/03/07 (Fri) 17:13
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You don't have kids ?
I put my kids first

In our situation, living together is the best thing for now

You say you should be with someone you love
You say you use kids as an excuse
You sacrifice your kids to be with someone you love ?
I don't understand why you would sacrifice your children to be with someone you love

I can't think of anyone more important than your children.

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  • 2025/03/07 (Fri) 20:21
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I have children. Fortunately, my marriage is going well.

I don't think I'd put love first when there are children, either.
However, I wrote this because I thought that forcing a couple to stay together when they are not getting along is bad for the children's psyche after hearing my friend's story.

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#43
  • 私の両親
  • 2025/03/07 (Fri) 21:57
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When I was in middle school, there was talk of my parents divorcing because of my father's infidelity.
My mother decided not to divorce my children until they were grown up, not wanting them to be poor. My mother, who worked hard to raise my children, even though my father still pushed her around, is still someone I truly admire. I have come full circle and now take care of my sick father. I think it's not bad to go through rough times. Maybe it's old-fashioned, but there are good times and bad times. I thought that only couples who choose not to separate can know what the future holds for the rest of their marriage.

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  • うふふ
  • 2025/03/08 (Sat) 07:05
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What if you plan to get a mature divorce, but your partner asks you to leave early ??

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  • 2025/03/08 (Sat) 08:59
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We won't divorce until the kids are grown.
We have both agreed. It is often men who have trouble being alone in old age.

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I don't know if he's good enough now.

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  • うみ
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  • 2025/01/16 06:42

I have a very sweet Asian boyfriend, but I get the impression that he is not thinking about our future or becoming a family. I am not sure if I want to marry him or not due to our different values. I am feeling impatient because of my age since I am not young, but it is also very difficult to meet Japanese people here in America. I am not sure if I can go out with him. I am not sure if it is safe to go out with a Japanese person. Has anyone else experienced something similar?

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  • Yutaka_zo
  • 2025/02/28 (Fri) 23:29
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I am a married male 48 Japanese. I dont know your age but if you're feeling unsure, it might be wise to take some time alone away from the relationship and see if hes really the right person. relationship and see if hes really the right person

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#4
  • 釣り?
  • 2025/03/04 (Tue) 07:35
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You don't even seem to know what you don't know.

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#5
  • kai
  • 2025/03/09 (Sun) 21:40
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Umi

Hello.
If you are not sure, you should check with him or ?
if you can't consider yourself married to him,
you should leave him immediately.

Do you want to go back to being friends?
You don't want male friends ?

There are many ideas.

You may not decide on one partner who is not married
Poly.
Poly should be with other Poly's because it is less cheat
.

If you trust your instincts and act on them, you won't regret it.

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Times have changed.

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  • Hirako
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  • 2025/02/28 08:49

My nephew in Japan asked me, "Is it safe to use private tours in Los Angeles ??
I was surprised to find some pages that clearly did not have a business license.
I asked the president of a tour company I know, and he said, "All the ones that don't have a permit are illegal.
I thought Japanese people follow the rules, but I guess this is the times we live in.

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  • もっともだ
  • 2025/02/28 (Fri) 23:03
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7 So, why don't you hire an airport transfer company, which is also advertised here, for a 12-hour charter or something like that? You or a stranger can be the only guide riding alongside you.

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#9
  • Hirako
  • 2025/03/01 (Sat) 13:32
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I wondered if that was the case, so I got Danna involved and looked into it.
I asked an attorney who knows Danna, and he said, "Chartering a car and giving a ride to a person is considered a travel business, so you need to report it to a travel agency.
Anyway, he said that the law is very strict when it comes to the transportation of people.
The reason seems to be "for safety because there are always dangers such as accidents when people move" and "for consumer protection against fraud and breach of contract".
The law is stricter than the law for private tours, because it says, "Penalties will be imposed if you don't write your registration number on all advertisements.
"If you don't report it, there's nothing you can do if you get in trouble and run away," I was told.
Indeed.

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#10
  • 0ではないと❓
  • 2025/03/01 (Sat) 17:29
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Indeed, it is a surprising content. As you say, the necessary business licenses and registrations are required to operate a legitimate tour business. When advertised in the form of "private individual private tours," it is not uncommon for them to operate without the proper credentials or permits. Especially in popular tourist destinations such as Los Angeles, there can be a mixture of illegal services targeting tourists.

One reason for the existence of these illegal services may be that consumers have difficulty recognizing them and they are easily accepted as a less costly option. However, if a problem or accident should occur, there is a risk of not receiving proper compensation. To answer that nephew's question, the best advice would be to say that it is important to carefully check the business license and registration information of the service you are using. It is also safe to choose a company with reliable official tourist services and reviews. Although the image of "Japanese people follow the rules" is certainly strong, it is also true that in reality there are differences among individuals. As time goes by, the tourism industry and consumer choices may be changing.

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  • Hirako
  • 2025/03/03 (Mon) 12:10
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Yes, that's right. We should still tell them how to handle the risk. I told my relative's child, "Even if the price is a little high, I would not choose a legitimate service.
"It's too late if something happens.

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#12
  • AI太郎
  • 2025/03/03 (Mon) 14:52
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Just because they are operating with a business license, it is another story whether the staff there is trustworthy or not.
It's not uncommon for the staff to be students without work permits, like the fatal accident sometime back in the day..,

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I am looking for a place where my grandfather, grandmother, and father used to live.

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  • シゲ furton
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  • 2024/12/09 21:14

It was a long time ago, around 1930, I was running a flower shop in Little Tokyo, Los Angeles. Three years later, for some reason or other, they returned to Japan, but when the three of them were still alive, ( I found information and books of the flower shop in my childhood ) and the address.
It was a pre-war address, "332 E. first street, Los Angeles Calif.
However, since it is an old address, I can only find "maybe here ?". Because when I did a GOOGLE search, it was in front of the Sakura Hotel.
The address of the flower shop was "under Ohayo Hotel" from there.
I am having a hard time finding out where the Ohayo Hotel was located and if it was possibly the predecessor of the Sakura Hotel.
I am planning to visit Los Angeles in the near future to see my grandmother's roots, which were Japanese-American. ( I'm not sure if it's inside Skid Row, but )

Perhaps there is a 90+ year old person who has lived in Little Tokyo since childhood, and if memory serves, there may be a chance.
If anyone has any information, please let us know.
By the way, the name of the flower shop my grandfather owned at that time was Tei ( MIKADO )
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#30

住所から現在の都ホテルのある場所ですね。ホテルが立つ前に何が有ったか思い出せないなあ。やはり2-3階建てのビルだったともいます。半地下になっていて札幌ラーメンが入っていたと思うのですが。オハヨーホテルと言うのはOhio Hotel の事です。あの辺りには小さなホテルが沢山有り、日本から来た人たちが住む場所が決まるまで泊まっていたりそこから仕事を探したりにぎやかだったようですよ。ちなみに向かい側に帝ホテルが有りそこから花屋さんの名前を取ったのかな?

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#31
  • 通りすがり
  • 2024/12/31 (Tue) 19:24
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Is it near the giant mural of Otani ? You should ask a Japanese TV company if they can make it into a documentary ?.

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  • 2025/02/09 (Sun) 08:02
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Ben Pease has drawn a map of old Little Tokyo. It may be useful. https://rafu.com/2022/09/zoom-event-mapping-lost-little-tokyo-east/

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#34
  • 昭和のおとっつぁん
  • 2025/02/11 (Tue) 10:35
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The map doesn't seem to show a florist store.

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#35

I think it was 6th street ? I don't remember exactly, but
if there are elders at the flower market, you could ask them ?
since the downtown florist has been stocking here for ages.

Old photos of Japanese-Americans and other items are held by Visual ・ Communications.

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Text message from Japan

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  • mimimimi
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  • 2025/01/29 14:53

Does anyone know how to receive text messages from Japan on an American cell phone ? Yahoo Japan requires registration of a cell phone number. I don't know how to do this since I don't have a Japanese cell phone number.

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  • 見栄晴
  • 2025/02/02 (Sun) 12:50
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> Where is your address for the contract ? payment and so on ? is your address in the US ?

everything is in Japan.

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  • もっともだ
  • 2025/02/03 (Mon) 10:13
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Then who checks and pays the bills ??

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  • ボケた高齢者
  • 2025/02/04 (Tue) 15:34
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I believe they do not currently issue paper statements.

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  • 見栄晴
  • 2025/02/04 (Tue) 17:39
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> Then who checks and pays the bills ?

I can do everything on my phone and PC, but payment is by direct debit.
More importantly, I only use it for SMS verification, so it's always within the basic fee.

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#21

Yahoo Japan is not the only one. Banks now require a Japanese cell phone number to receive passcodes by text message when registering for sites and accounts with 2-step verification
Even if you have a Japanese cell phone, you cannot receive texts abroad
So the question, "How to receive text messages from Japan on your US cell phone" is not available now
On the other hand, there is a way to receive text messages from the US on your Japanese cell phone. So, there is no way to receive text messages from Japan on your US phone On the other hand, there is a way to receive text messages from the US on your Japanese phone.

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Relocating to LA with family, house hunting and school district ….

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  • Lemon
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  • 2025/01/27 20:17

Nice to meet you.

I am relocating to Los Angeles for my husband's work.
I will be working in Burbank and am looking for a place to live within a 30 minute commute. ( Rent can be up to about 7k )
I have children in elementary school and kindergarten, so I am considering a place with a good school district and safety.
We also want them to attend a supplementary school, so it is difficult to find a place with good access ….
I was stationed in Los Angeles for a year before my child was born, so I have a vague idea of the area, but when it comes to school districts, I have no idea, so I refer to sites like Niche.
I am currently considering
La canada, South Pasadena, San Marino, Arcadia, and Encino, Shrman oaks, and Studio city west of Burbank.
As for supplementary schools, we are considering Asahi Gakuen's Santa Monica school.
I know it's really difficult because there are so many conditions …
I would appreciate any advice anyone can give me.
Thank you in advance.

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  • ぷニュー
  • 2025/01/27 (Mon) 22:14
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The remedial school is once a week, so I don't think you need to think that much about convenience. I think it is better to give priority to the local school because daily life is more important than that. I can do my best in the remedial school because it is only once a week, but if I fail in the local school, it will be stressful.

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  • Lemon
  • 2025/01/29 (Wed) 17:15
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Dear Pu New

Thank you very much. It is true that the supplementary school is only once a week. … If the local school is preferred, it seems to be very difficult to choose a school district. I wonder what criteria everyone is using to make their choice ?.

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  • ABc
  • 2025/01/29 (Wed) 18:24
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If private school is not an option, but mid-career enrollment is not possible, public school districts would still be La canada, South Pasadena, and San Marino, but racially, LaCanada is quite mixed and may be easier to blend in. There are few rentals in these areas, and it is difficult to find a place that fits your budget. San Marino is almost exclusively Asian, with the overwhelming majority of Chinese among them. If you are not concerned about race, these areas are relatively safe in the vicinity of LA. The Japanese school is only open once a week, though, so I would suggest that you don't prioritize that convenience.

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  • うちは
  • 2025/01/30 (Thu) 16:58
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I decided on the school district based on the score. I know it's not just the score, but I avoided it because I believe that if the score is low, there must be a reason for it after all. I also avoided remote areas because I get frustrated if it is too inconvenient for daily life. My friend lives in a great residential area in a very high scoring school district, but she says it's too far to the supermarket, and all the remedial schools and lessons are too far away, so gas prices and stress are maxed out.

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#6

I live in Culver City with my family and the schools are very good and the living conditions are wonderful.
I go to Asahi in Torrance for remedial school, but it's only once a week, so I wouldn't say I'm stressed.

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Marriage after overstay, green card

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  • mail
  • 2024/11/08 07:40

Hello. I entered the country previously on a tourist visa to meet my American boyfriend (now husband). My boyfriend became sick with an internal disease and while I was taking care of him, his visa expired and he overstayed. We later married in the U.S. and my husband is now healthy and he has a stable income. I have never worked in the US. I am applying for a green card, but I am paroling ? because of my overstay and I think I will have to go back to the US Embassy in Japan for an interview.
I am quite anxious because Trump will be president for a period of time. I am worried that I will not be able to re-enter Japan ? if I go back to Japan because of the alternative situation due to Trump being tough on immigrants.
I would appreciate your advice or anyone with similar experiences. Sorry for the rambling.

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  • ボケた高齢者
  • 2025/01/12 (Sun) 09:02
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You can tell by the cards you receive.

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#45
  • へ?笑
  • 2025/01/13 (Mon) 21:18
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It's best not to overstay than to hire a lawyer.

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#47
  • 昭和のおとっつぁん
  • 2025/01/14 (Tue) 10:31
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It looks like I can get married now and get a 10 year Grin Card application
minus the 2 year temp.
Thank goodness for the world.

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#49

As far as I know, it's been over 10 years, 10 years for green cards that arrive after 2 years of marriage
#37 didn't get it within 2 years of marriage ?.

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#55
  • 0ではないと❓
  • 2025/01/22 (Wed) 10:19
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If you apply for a green card within 2 years of marriage, the first green card you will be issued will be a 2-year conditional green card; after 2 years you will apply to have the condition removed and you will be issued a 10-year green card. If you apply for a green card more than two years after your marriage, you will be issued a 10-year green card from the beginning.

You most likely obtained your green card within 2 years of marriage.

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language school

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  • Niconico
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  • 2024/12/26 22:12

I'm a woman in her twenties, married and raising a family here in Japan.
My brother would like to go to a language school for a short term starting in the spring, but he doesn't have any friends around him who go to language school and I can't gather much information. I would like to know if there are any good language schools in the Gardena&Torrance area.
Thanks in advance.

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  • もっともだ
  • 2024/12/27 (Fri) 19:41
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F1 visa at a language school.

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