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Is it still just my small vessel ？?

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#1
  • monicasanta
  • 2023/08/17 21:07

I would like to discuss child rearing.
Please especially those who have experienced international marriage and stepchild marriage.

I am a Japanese 35 year old man. My wife is an American 35 years old and a housewife.
We have four children, ages 10, 8, 5, and 2 from the top.

The two older children are the children of my wife and her ex-husband.
The ex-husband pays child support payments of $250 per person per month for a total of $500.
They have had chronic illnesses from the beginning that required hospital visits, but the ex-husband only pays $500 per month in child support.
Currently, they rarely see each other due to ex-husband's availability.

I have been with my older two since they were 4 and 2
I am proud to say that I have treated them as if they were my own.

In this day and age, especially in the US,
it is better to respect the biological father after a divorce and
treat the remarried father as a stepfather only.
My wife tells me "you are a stepfather" every time I have a conflict in parenting.

I am mortified every time.
It's been over 5 years now.
The oldest child has also been remarried longer.

Is it still just my small capacity ？?

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#22
  • アジッ
  • 2023/08/20 (Sun) 11:46
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This is the experience of someone who had an easy escape.

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#23
  • 匿名には匿名の良さも
  • 2023/08/20 (Sun) 12:29
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If you're going to reveal your real name, you're going to be limited to a certain amount of content

You don't expose your real name to a stranger to talk about these domestic problems
Sometimes it's because you don't know them that you can talk about them.

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#25
  • FB
  • 2023/08/20 (Sun) 17:12
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＞ Anonymous has its advantages

Indeed.

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#28

I don't think you can talk like that ？ when you are practically taking care of her as your own child and treating her emotionally. I see a glimpse of your wife's arrogance and convenience, like a good thing.

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#31
  • 国際結婚の覚悟
  • 2023/08/21 (Mon) 09:49
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You say it like that. ？

Americans say it clearly, but they don't take it to heart
They say it clearly, so they don't take it to heart

In international marriage, especially, Japanese common sense does not apply

In fact, in America, child support for a child from a second marriage is father's obligation
In Japan, it is the obligation of the person who remarries

If you want something kind in return, you should not do it.

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