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Is it still just my small vessel ？?

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#1
  • monicasanta
  • 2023/08/17 21:07

I would like to discuss child rearing.
Please especially those who have experienced international marriage and stepchild marriage.

I am a Japanese 35 year old man. My wife is an American 35 years old and a housewife.
We have four children, ages 10, 8, 5, and 2 from the top.

The two older children are the children of my wife and her ex-husband.
The ex-husband pays child support payments of $250 per person per month for a total of $500.
They have had chronic illnesses from the beginning that required hospital visits, but the ex-husband only pays $500 per month in child support.
Currently, they rarely see each other due to ex-husband's availability.

I have been with my older two since they were 4 and 2
I am proud to say that I have treated them as if they were my own.

In this day and age, especially in the US,
it is better to respect the biological father after a divorce and
treat the remarried father as a stepfather only.
My wife tells me "you are a stepfather" every time I have a conflict in parenting.

I am mortified every time.
It's been over 5 years now.
The oldest child has also been remarried longer.

Is it still just my small capacity ？?

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#3

I don't think you are a small vessel.
I think you have the right to divorce.
But you also chose to marry with children, so
I think it is one thing to be responsible until the end. I believe your children will understand.

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#4
  • ガセネタ太郎
  • 2023/08/19 (Sat) 12:03
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If I remarry, will I still get child support or anything from my ex-husband ？ ？?

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#5
  • 昭和のおとっつぁん
  • 2023/08/19 (Sat) 12:16
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They both had chronic illnesses from the beginning and needed to go to the hospital.
They are U.S. born citizens, so they must get help from the government.

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#6
  • 質問
  • 2023/08/19 (Sat) 13:38
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I'm a little unclear on the point.
Are you complaining about being told you are a stepfather ？
or are you complaining about the medical bills you have to pay and you are not happy about it ？
or are you complaining about not being acknowledged as a father for the burden you have to bear ？ Well, I guess it's all of it, and I don't think the Lord is a small vessel.
I think it's great that you treat them as if they were your own children.

Why don't you complain to your wife about that ？
she treats you like her own child in everything, maybe she'll recognize you as a father a little.
I wonder if the real father will even show up. ＄ There's no way 500 is enough.

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Menopausal Issues

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  • 70年代
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  • 2023/08/21 13:54

I know I'm getting older as I live my life, but
I'm already this old before I know it.

I'm getting tired of socializing
I've become very good at being alone
but it's still lonely not to be around people

How do you find new friends ？?

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Hurricane Approaching Southern California (Hurricane Hillary ＿ ）)

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#1
  • 台風
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  • 2023/08/18 10:18

Please share information.

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#22
  • 笑メロン
  • 2023/08/20 (Sun) 12:25
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Izu Oshima is not Okinawa either.

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#23
  • え？
  • 2023/08/20 (Sun) 14:41
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It's raining but no wind lol what's a typhoon ？ what about a hurricane ？

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#24
  • トロピカルストーム
  • 2023/08/20 (Sun) 14:47
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#23

Less wind as it turns into a tropical storm.
Typhoons and hurricanes are magnified when at sea, but weaken when they hit land.

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#26
  • おたまじゃくし
  • 2023/08/20 (Sun) 15:25
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Earthquake, too.

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#27
  • 🍉
  • 2023/08/20 (Sun) 16:19
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Hot and humid ！ ！

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Unhappy children who inherited only the shortcomings of their parents.

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#1
  • カレー
  • mail
  • 2023/08/06 02:18

I wanted to post this because I wanted to ask you all to listen to the hard feelings I have been having for many years.
I would be happy to hear from anyone who has suffered through a similar situation as I have, and how they are trying to overcome it.

I am now in my 40's and worked for many years on both marriage and job hunting to move to LA, but ultimately my wish was not granted and I recently returned home.
I believe that the main reason why my life is not going well despite my best efforts is because
I inherited my mother's bad looks, which is rare in history, and my father's temperamental personality.
Being a woman and having poor looks is a fatal disadvantage. Her mother, who is in her 70s, is not good-looking, but she graduated from a top school and a first-class national university, is very intelligent, intellectually curious, and has a good way of doing everything, and has many friends with a likable personality. After giving birth, she became a housewife, but during her working years, she earned more money than her father. Because of this, she married her father, who is relatively wealthy, well-educated, and relatively good-looking. On the other hand, my father was smart and chose women based on the wavelength of conversation and their personalities, so he did not particularly care about their looks, but he is selfish, short-tempered, and quick-tempered. I am not as well-educated as my mother, and I don't feel the same yearning for a full-time housewife like my mother, and I don't like children either, so I longed for a single life in LA where I could be carefree. Since I was not good enough to get permanent residency on my own and did not have the good looks to get a man to marry me and support my permanent residency, I had to return home.

After returning home, I have found a full-time job, but it is almost a black company and does not seem to last.
I regret that I should have studied for more qualifications when I was young so that I could get a solid job. I am currently working on my studies, which I was not able to do when I was younger, and I am angry at my parents for not communicating the importance of getting a solid job when I was younger. Part of it is that my parents' generation did not place as much importance on women's financial independence, but all of their wishful thinking about me is off.
My appearance is not at a level that can be managed with petite plastic surgery.

Those who are not in my situation will not understand my situation.
I apologize for the length of this article, but I would be happy to hear from anyone who has overcome similar circumstances.

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#95
  • 昭和のおとっつぁん
  • 2023/08/15 (Tue) 14:04
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The hardships our family must endure in the future will be extraordinary.
We will endure the unendurable and persevere in the unendurable
We will strive to create peace for all time and share the joy of mutual prosperity with all nations
We will be firm in our resolve and vow to uplift the spirit of our family
We will strive to keep pace with the progress of the world.

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#96
  • 77
  • 2023/08/15 (Tue) 14:11
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There was a conversion error so I am reposting this.

I am glad to see that you are doing better than I expected, I thought you must be in a very difficult situation since your posts in #1 were pathetic. You say that you have not inherited any of the smartness, but you are really good at writing and I don't think you are dumb at all. I think that you are just being compared with your mother, who is very intelligent, and that makes you feel that you are not smart enough. Or perhaps you are surrounded by many other people who are very smart, and that makes you feel that you are not smart enough.
It is also quite common in Japan for students to live their university life without thinking deeply about employment or their major, and not studying hard enough. If you feel later that you wanted to go to a national university or study something different, I think it is not too late to do so. I went to college for a semester when I was in my mid-40s and enjoyed it very much. I have since been unable to continue, but I have not given up hope of going to college in my 50's. I still have things I want to study. I have things I want to study. In fact, there were people who were older than me taking the same classes, and I didn't care about my age when it came to learning. I think it is never too late to study, to go to college, or to get a certificate, no matter what age you are. You say yourself that you are not good looking, but if you are one of the worst looking people in history, you may not even want to go out and meet people.
Ms. Curry is well loved by her parents, is good at English, and was well educated and was pampered.
I think she is not as bad looking as she thinks she is. She also went to college, got a job, and has the ability to go to the U.S., so I don't think she is as middle-aged and lacking in substance as she thinks she is. He received enough love from his parents.
I can learn English well and have a good command of English.
I was able to go to university.
I could get a job.
I was able to live in Los Angeles, which is my dream, and I have a hope to return.
I think you are very blessed with just these five things. If you think you are empty inside, I believe that you can improve your contents any number of ways from now on.

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  • 昭和のおとっつぁん
  • 2023/08/15 (Tue) 14:13
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If a couple leaves each other, they think they are cheating on each other.

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#98
  • 日本
  • 2023/08/15 (Tue) 14:29
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I could have easily predicted that someone would say something like #93, but it appears so soon.
Each family has its own circumstances and you are not in a position to tell them what to do.
I don't want to live in something I don't want to live in, but I don't have a choice.

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#99
  • はな
  • 2023/08/15 (Tue) 15:20
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>Who can reply ？

I don't understand.
Who is it other than you ？ On the contrary, who is it ？

>I think you will be convinced if you read 77's opinion.

Please don't force me to convince you.

>Replying is not forcing.

Again, convincing is not forcing either.
I have also made a topical reply, but even if my mentality is at its worst, I at least responded with something and a short reply.
I think you are beating yourself up by trying to write in long sentences because of your character.

> There, incomprehensible words and scolding from others can pierce the heart like a deadly weapon for the weak of heart.

I don't know how to put it, but my opinion is similar to #91, so I hope you can take it from there. And why does #82 make it difficult to understand without using his own HN?

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studying abroad in a junior high school

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  • Tyler
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  • 2023/08/16 22:52

I am an eighth grader and I am thinking of studying abroad, but I wonder if I can enroll if I have gardeians or other students. I would like to know the procedure for admission.

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LA Fat Motor

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#1
  • 教えて
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  • 2023/08/17 20:01

Please tell me

how to get a good deal in LA.
Are there places like Japanese fat motors in LA
？?

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How to find a roommate

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#1
  • Hulu
  • mail
  • 2023/07/03 01:31

I have an extra room and would like to find a roommate.
Please tell me what kind of contract I should sign with my roommate.

Should I make a formal document and ask her to sign it?
Should I get a copy of the driver license?

I heard that someone I know had a bad roommate and had a hard time
I would like to know how you all do it.

Please do.

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#14
  • 昭和のおとっつぁん
  • 2023/07/06 (Thu) 13:35
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An acquaintance of mine has a roommate living in a one-bed room
without the landlord's knowledge.
The landlord is elderly and leaves the management to the caretaker.
The caretaker doesn't even know who lives in each room
and they will never find out or find out.
There are three people living in one of the other beds
and they all go out in one car in the morning.

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#17
  • 💩
  • 2023/07/06 (Thu) 18:45
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＞ The janitor doesn't even know who lives in each room

These are not called janitors in Japanese

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#18
  • 昭和のおとっつぁん
  • 2023/07/07 (Fri) 07:47
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Also a caretaker in managing the apartment.
It is also the caretaker who comes to clean the yard of the apartment once a month and fix what is broken. Various men, various women, and various janitors are in bloom.

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#20
  • 昭和のおとっつぁん
  • 2023/07/11 (Tue) 09:28
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The three residents of a one-bed room, who all go out in one car in the morning
and do not return until the evening
since they go out in the morning and do not come back until the evening
cleaning the yard and maintenance is done in the evening they do not see each other.

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#21

I've heard that there are more and more sitters, so I thought it would be a good idea to do a credit history and background check as well as a contract to make sure there are no mistakes.
https://friday.kodansha.co.jp/article/317536?page=1

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a certain bookstore

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#1
  • JJ
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  • 2023/08/05 08:24

I went to a used bookstore on a weekday when there were few people around,
browsed a bit to buy some books,
then moved on to the manga section.
I'm totally sure the staff is sneaking around checking me out the whole time.
I pretend not to look, but it's so obvious. He must have looked like a shoplifter. But I felt really bad.
Are there others here ？?

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unused item on deposit

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#1
  • 水菜
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  • 2023/05/31 19:51

Question for "those who have a wardrobe deposit."
• How much money do you have in a safe deposit account? ？
• What are the advantages of a safe deposit account?
• What are the disadvantages of a wardrobe deposit?
• How do you plan to move your chest deposit if you return to Japan permanently ？?

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#52
  • 貧乏アピール
  • 2023/06/18 (Sun) 23:54
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I'm tired of my friends' appeals to poverty. I don't understand what it means to be working together and have no money. It's not fun because they show their poverty in every conversation.

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#53
  • 昭和のおとっつぁん
  • 2023/06/19 (Mon) 06:55
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If you appeal to the poor, people with ulterior motives will not approach you.

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#54
  • 嘘
  • 2023/06/19 (Mon) 07:50
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He appealed to poverty and asked his good-natured friends for things, but his Japanese parents were wealthy and their children always wore nice brand-name clothes.

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#55
  • 管理人
  • 2023/06/19 (Mon) 08:10
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If the appeal of poverty is too much, even those without ulterior motives won't come close. And then no one left.

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#57
  • 昭和のおとっつぁん
  • 2023/06/19 (Mon) 08:58
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People with no ulterior motives also do not approach you, so you can choose your own partner.

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Monthly savings

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#1
  • 金子
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  • 2023/07/24 21:25

Is 2000 a month a small amount to save for a single person?
How much money do you save?

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#48
  • 昭和のおとっつぁん
  • 2023/08/02 (Wed) 19:38
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Cheep and evil to strangers and pray to go to the Paradise
Thank you, thank you, thank you!

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#49
  • 昭和のおとっつぁん
  • 2023/08/03 (Thu) 07:40
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Thanks

Namu Amida.　To be able to say it with a ding-dong and a rin.

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#51
  • 昭和のおとっつぁん
  • 2023/08/03 (Thu) 11:11
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If you stick to a small Japan, that's all you'll get
Oh, hare hare, hare kurishuna is missing.
The world is a big place LOOK WORLD

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#53
  • え？何それ！
  • 2023/08/03 (Thu) 16:40
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$ I know that paying only 120K is only a down payment on a $ 600K house. That's why I'm not buying now.

I think the person in #28 was trying to make fun of me by asking if I can pay $ 4600 a month ？ but even apartment dwellers pay that much in rent and other things ？ what are you talking about?

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#54
  • 昭和のおとっつぁん
  • 2023/08/03 (Thu) 17:47
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LOOK WORLD is LOOK WORLD.
Nothing is too hard.

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