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Is it still just my small vessel ？?

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#1
  • monicasanta
  • 2023/08/17 21:07

I would like to discuss child rearing.
Please especially those who have experienced international marriage and stepchild marriage.

I am a Japanese 35 year old man. My wife is an American 35 years old and a housewife.
We have four children, ages 10, 8, 5, and 2 from the top.

The two older children are the children of my wife and her ex-husband.
The ex-husband pays child support payments of $250 per person per month for a total of $500.
They have had chronic illnesses from the beginning that required hospital visits, but the ex-husband only pays $500 per month in child support.
Currently, they rarely see each other due to ex-husband's availability.

I have been with my older two since they were 4 and 2
I am proud to say that I have treated them as if they were my own.

In this day and age, especially in the US,
it is better to respect the biological father after a divorce and
treat the remarried father as a stepfather only.
My wife tells me "you are a stepfather" every time I have a conflict in parenting.

I am mortified every time.
It's been over 5 years now.
The oldest child has also been remarried longer.

Is it still just my small capacity ？?

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#11
  • ガセネタ太郎
  • 2023/08/19 (Sat) 17:12
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By the way, if you remarry, you don't have to pay child support.

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#13
  • ゲゲゲ
  • 2023/08/19 (Sat) 19:18
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If you remarry and the next person you marry is your child
and you don't change your last name too, your ex-husband is still obligated to pay child support, even though there are a lot of DEAD BEAT DADS.

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#15
  • 感覚の違い
  • 2023/08/20 (Sun) 00:03
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Americans think logically

Stepfathers are stepfathers to their children
Too much talk is not tolerated

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#16
  • FB
  • 2023/08/20 (Sun) 08:08
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There is a site called "Japanese in America" on Facebook, so why don't you ask there?

Anonymous BibiNavi, while ↓ here everyone has a real name, so it's a decent site.

https://www.facebook.com/groups/637768156431069

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#17
  • KUZU
  • 2023/08/20 (Sun) 08:23
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FB
Facebook is much more sane than asking the FB sanbibi kuzu, although I'm registered here
Everyone is sane.

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