Vivinavi : Los Angeles : (United States) Los Angeles

• 圭
• 2022/10/08 (Sat) 12:25
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Not a dog, but when I was in middle school, my kitten was pulled by a car right in front of me. I didn't see the moment, but a delivery man informed me that a cat was being pulled by a car ､ and that it wasn't one of my cats ？ ､ No way - it wasn't one of my cats ！ and I went to see if it was one of my cats ､ It hadn't been pulled for long and when I touched it, it was still warm and its body was in a state of instant death. I touched it, and it was warm and in a state of instant death.
I was in shock and cried and had a hard time everyday.
I don't want to feel like this anymore ､ so I can never keep an animal again.

• Pup
• 2022/10/08 (Sat) 12:45
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He was only 2 years old, and I am sorry to hear that you lost him in a sudden accident, and I can only imagine your deep sorrow and regret.
I lost my beloved dog that I had at my parents' house in Japan this year due to old age. He lived long enough, but it is still hard to say goodbye, and I still wonder if I could have done more for him.

I am not ready to accept a new dog yet, but I am talking with my partner about adopting a puppy in the next year or so. I know it will be hard to say goodbye someday, but I knew I needed a companion animal in my life. Most of all, I don't think our deceased dogs would want us to be overwhelmed with grief and regret. When you are going through a difficult time, try to think, "She wouldn't have wanted me to be sad. It just inevitably takes time for the grief to heal ….

• missing
• 2022/10/09 (Sun) 00:38
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MISSING.
Thank you for the pros and cons of writing. I was struck by the comment from someone who lost a kitten in an accident. Really, if I were to adopt next time, that would be a great life change as well. I'm wondering if that day will come for me too. And I am sure that every day I feel sad, if my soul is connected to that too, I can't stay depressed for the child's sake.
Thank you very much.
I hope you will have another lovely family.

• 圭子
• 2022/10/09 (Sun) 01:55
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#10 Dependence
> I don't see the point of sharing our grief

I'm not the only one who is sad ､ I feel a little better if I know that there are others who are also sad ､ and even sadder than me, and I can bear the grief.　I think it's important to share your grief, though. If you're not interested, don't come at me all the time.
I'm guessing you haven't yet experienced extreme grief that you can't bear, and when you're sad you want to cling to someone.

• 倍金万
• 2022/10/09 (Sun) 08:32
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In my neighborhood, there are two old men who must be in their 70's. They recently lost their cute pet dog and since then I haven't seen them walking at all. Pets are part of the family, so if they pass away before you, do you lose the will to live too?

• 昭和のおとっつぁん
• 2022/10/09 (Sun) 08:57
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The reason I don't see him walking around at all anymore
is that he probably doesn't need to take his dog for a walk anymore.

If an uncle who is probably in his 70s were to get a dog again
he would not think about getting one again, considering which would live longer, his life or his pet.

Cats don't need to be walked, though.

• 昭和の母
• 2022/10/09 (Sun) 11:44
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Cats don't need to be walked, but if their lonely old owners die, they will starve to death.

• 昭和のおとっつぁん
• 2022/10/09 (Sun) 16:10
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Since I started keeping pets, my life has changed from being centered on myself to being centered on my pets.
Since I started keeping pets, I have to be responsible for them until the end.

If you are young when you buy a pet, there is no problem, but if you become a lonely old man,
you have to think about your own life span and the life span of your pet, otherwise you cannot let it starve to death.

• 昭和のおとっつぁん
• 2022/10/09 (Sun) 16:55
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I would love to have such a big kitty.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hGA-UiYU-OU

• 犬
• 2022/10/09 (Sun) 19:52
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Did you perhaps carelessly run away and get hit by a car ？
I knew a dog who opened the door and ran out, ran onto the walkway and died instantly.
It was just carelessness and irresponsibility on the part of the owner.
A 2 year old is still a baby and too pitiful.

• 🐶
• 2022/10/10 (Mon) 06:51
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＃ In #1, you write that "it's all the owner's responsibility", so I assume you are aware of that.

By the way, an acquaintance of mine told me that when she opened the door, the dog ran out and
has been missing ever since. I guess it happens often.

• 犬
• 2022/10/10 (Mon) 07:55
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Ha ？
A good problem if they are aware ？
You can put a gate on the door or train them, especially if they are healthy dogs.
I feel sorry for dogs that are kept just because they are cute and lonely.
It is not often good.
It's not a matter of saying it can't be helped because it happens often.
I'm sure he's doing well now.

• 倍金万
• 2022/10/10 (Mon) 08:38
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＞ He is no longer seen taking walks at all
＞ probably because he no longer needs to take his dog for a walk.

This man has been seen walking alone

since he moved to this neighborhood over 20 years ago, so even though his dog has passed away, he would have started walking for his body if his dog's death

was not such a shock.

• 小型犬の飼い主
• 2022/10/10 (Mon) 09:43
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I keep them at home, but they are always with me when I walk them around the neighborhood or let them play in my yard. I don't take them on trails because I don't know if a coyote might attack them in my yard, and I don't want to risk a snake bite. We don't go to the dog park anymore either because of the rare possibility of being attacked by other dogs. After a coyote invaded our yard and we had to evacuate the house in a crisis, we have become more cautious. I can't believe I lost my dog right in front of me.

• きなりー
• 2022/10/10 (Mon) 10:29
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21
A type of person who rubs salt into wounds with his own imagination.

24
The type who blames parents who lost their children and rubs salt in the wound.

Topi is not swearing, she is feeling remorse.
I don't want people who write posts like 21 and 24 to talk about responsibility.
People who don't understand people's feelings and hurt are really scary.
I imagine overprotective, militant animal rights people who are more overprotective than they need to be.

• おっちょこちょい
• 2022/10/10 (Mon) 11:11
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I am a person who can accept unintentional mistakes and failures as inevitable, so when I meet someone who is very meticulous, punctual, and needs every penny to be separated, I try not to get along with them. I once had lunch with a person who was 5-10 minutes late and whose mood was so obvious that I thought he was impossible to deal with.
I avoid people who cancel or are too loose because they can be pushy.

• 許す
• 2022/10/10 (Mon) 11:39
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It's strange
to think that not having forgiveness
makes you less attractive as a person ？.

• 犬
• 2022/10/10 (Mon) 17:57
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Yes, it is. It's natural, isn't it? You should look after them properly like #26 before you feel remorse.
If you can't do it, don't keep it. There are too many easy owners who say so.

• きなりー
• 2022/10/10 (Mon) 18:43
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I'm still afraid of my self-important nature.
I'm not sure about taking sides with people without their permission.

26 says
"I don't even go to the dog park anymore because of the rare possibility of being attacked by another dog."
"I've become more cautious since a coyote invaded my yard and I had to take refuge inside in a crisis."
He said.
So, he also went to the dog park, where he thought he might be attacked, and was lucky enough not to be attacked by a coyote.
As a result, it's a good thing I was lucky and wasn't attacked, and if I had been attacked, I'd rub salt in the wound, wouldn't I?
I am afraid of the character that can make contradictory statements.
What do you think about that?

I agree that there are many easy owners.
But what about hurting people with easy assumptions?
Not people's feelings <動物の気持ち
.
Both are important.

In the end, it's not an answer to anything and you're missing the point.
Behind the statements like you are protecting animals, you are actually just hiding and want to make your point.

• 犬
• 2022/10/10 (Mon) 19:41
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You are just defending yourself with logic. It is the owner's responsibility to take measures before that happens. I'm not taking sides.
You lost an animal on your own
Did you lose it because of your carelessness ？
You probably shouldn't have kept it before that.
If that's the way you think.

• Forgiveness
• 2022/10/10 (Mon) 20:26
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Isn't it suffocating for people who can't easily forgive other people's mistakes ？
And even though the owner is the one who suffers the most from the loss of a beloved dog, people who can blame it on the owner must have been raised by parents who blamed and got angry at them when they made mistakes or errors.
That's the way it is in the Asian world.

• おっさん
• 2022/10/10 (Mon) 21:14
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I don't know if it was Gaga or Madonna, but her dog was stolen while she was out walking
and her dog was shot and seriously injured I guess this is also because of the owner's negligence in risk management

I guess it's your fault because you let her walk around and you sterilize her properly and take her to the hospital
Well, it's a normal way of keeping cats. Well, it's a normal way of keeping a cat.
You guys can't forgive me for this either?

• きなりー
• 2022/10/10 (Mon) 21:40
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Also, a response that is not a response to your assumption and question.
I see that other people have raised the questioned response, but thank you for the answer.

• 昭和のおとっつぁん
• 2022/10/11 (Tue) 06:56
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It is dangerous for them to be outside during the day and in their rooms at night because they may fight with other cats or get fleas.

• 切り替え
• 2022/10/11 (Tue) 08:49
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Quit thinking forever about things you can't control even if you regret it. An accident is an accident. Get a new dog and get your happiness back.

As long as we live, sad events, accidents, and death will happen whether we are careful or not. No matter how hard you try, people will always leave you, and there are always things you can't control. Instead of blaming yourself or someone else and living with sadness all the time, accept that you cannot change the facts of the past and spend your time living happily in the present and the future. It is only unhappy to live in the past, believing that you are not happy unless this is the case and not accepting the fact that it is contrary to your expectations. Only he/she can separate what has happened from the past and live in the present with importance.

• ぬこ
• 2022/10/11 (Tue) 11:32
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It is natural to take measures.
But it's not "take measures → to prevent 100% of anything". You sound like you have never failed at anything in your life, but that's impossible, and I wonder how confident you are. Could you please refrain from writing posts that drive the hurt away? It is offensive.

• ひとによる
• 2022/10/11 (Tue) 12:11
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Some people can put the past behind them and move on to the next step. Please understand that even if a person with a detachable personality gives the command, "Yes, move on ！," some people can't do that, it's not like military training.

Topi is in pain after admitting her own negligence, and after a year and a half, she finally decided to write to see if she could somehow move forward and share her feelings with others if they feel the same way as she does. So I thought it would be nice if someone who feels that way would write to me ～. 。。。。

I am surprised at the number of people who blame Topy for this, or who write, "Hi, move on ！.

They say that when people shed many tears, they have the energy to move on. But the amount of those tears is different for everyone, so I hope the pain will ease someday with the help of time medication. 。。。。
I heard that some people get depression when they are alone and depressed all the time. So, Topy, if someone who feels the same way DM, we can share each other's pain, cry a lot, and move forward, little by little, I hope.
As someone wrote, your dog, who is watching over you from heaven, does not want you to feel sad all the time. I hope that one day you will regain your strength.

• 菜の花
• 2022/10/11 (Tue) 15:54
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#47

I am currently struggling with something else and your input resonated with me.

Thank you very much.

• 昭和のおとっつぁん
• 2022/10/11 (Tue) 16:02
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Even old brains can be kept indoors if they are cats,
and it is the owner's responsibility to wash dogs regularly.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mzQb4CV7hLY

• 昭和のおとっつぁん
• 2022/10/12 (Wed) 11:37
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Big kitten mixed in with doggie etiquette class

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cKwKysk5rEw&t=11s

• 自己中
• 2022/10/23 (Sun) 08:36
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#51
That would be your idea.
The next person who loses a dog due to negligence will either not get another dog, or if they want to adapt, they can write the facts and it will be rejected.
There is a difference between being kind and being a Christian and thinking you can be forgiven for anything. The dog may wish it had been born to a different owner.

• 昭和のおとっつぁん
• 2022/10/23 (Sun) 09:19
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Wouldn't the dog have been better off with a different owner?

• トホホ
• 2022/10/25 (Tue) 09:52
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Maybe the cat in your home wishes it had a different owner.