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• 昭和のおとっつぁん
• 2024/01/30 (Tue) 10:03
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Have you ever stayed at your parents' house in your hometown before?

• 🇯🇵
• 2024/01/30 (Tue) 16:56
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I go back every year, but I give 100,000 for a one month stay as a feeling.
They prepare delicious meals for me.

• 倍菌萬
• mail
• 2024/01/30 (Tue) 22:17
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I myself am old enough to be "picked up" and my parents in Japan have already passed away.

When my parents were healthy, the living room was open and they let me sleep there.

Well, since we were father and son, when my son who lived abroad came back to Japan after a long time, of course he stayed there for free, and
I didn't feel like paying anything at all.

Even when my two sons were in elementary school/kindergarten, we slept together in a small room.

I think parents and children, family, is like that.

Well, being an Edokko, if I said, "I'll pay you," he would probably say, "You are so blunt, you're paying me, I'll smash your head in! Sweat.

• mk
• 2024/01/31 (Wed) 07:09
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> I didn't feel like paying anything at all from here either. I laughed because it was kind of like Mr. Baikin. When I was a poor student, I was spoiled by my parents, but now that I can earn money, I want to be a little filial to them, so I leave money for them. Well, circumstances differ from family to family, but we want to spend our time comfortably so that we don't become a burden to each other.

• 孤独のおとっつぁん
• 2024/01/31 (Wed) 07:59
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If you were in the opposite situation, would you refuse to pay for four guests from Japan to stay here?

• 倍菌萬
• mail
• 2024/01/31 (Wed) 12:09
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＞ If you were in the opposite situation, would you refuse to pay for 4 guests from Japan to come and stay ？


Normally, if they come/stay overnight and we allow them, it is because they are immediate family, close friends or their family

and we have no intention of taking their money. If they insist on paying, I say clearly, "No kidding, I have no intention of taking any money. If they insist on paying, I will threaten

them with "I'm going to make peace with our past relationship.


I wonder if the people here who say, "Of course we'll get the money," are the ones who are really in need of it.

Or are they "cheapskates"?

• 通りすがりのガーデナー
• 2024/01/31 (Wed) 13:01
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Individuals ・ I know it varies from family to family, but in my case,

1. When I stay alone at my parents' house where they are spending their old age, I don't pay for my parents' stay
but I do pay for their meals out and things they want, ranging from a few thousand yen to several tens of thousands yen. I pay for or buy things that my parents want, which range from a few thousand yen to a few thousand yen.

2 ， If someone other than me and I stay with my parents, I pay about 3 ～ 5,000 yen ／ a day ／ per person, depending on the length of stay.

3, siblings ・ If they stay with relatives, I do the same 2.

Parents ・ Siblings ・ Sometimes relatives tell me that they don't get any money, but in that case I try to pay something back to parents ・ Siblings ・ Siblings' families by eating out ・ shopping
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Some people say, "We are family, we don't need money ・ ・ ・," but I just want to express my feelings, so I do this.

Please refer to the above.

• 通りすがりのガーデナー
• 2024/01/31 (Wed) 15:45
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I understand that there are people who have opinions like Showa Ototsan's, everyone is different. I hope that
you will take that into consideration as well.

• Nihao
• 2024/01/31 (Wed) 18:33
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If you stay at the house of an American relative or someone from another state, or vice versa, the person who comes to stay at your house pays for your meals out and such, even if they don't pay you directly.

I don't want to be taken care of unilaterally, so I don't think it has anything to do with being stingy. It doesn't make either of us feel better if we accept the other's goodwill ？.

• 実家
• 2024/01/31 (Wed) 22:09
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I leave 50,000 yen allowance for each of my parents for a 2-3 week stay and 50,000 yen for living expenses as a thank you. If we go shopping together, I pay for everything.

I don't usually do anything in particular, and the only time I have the opportunity to do so is when I go back home.

• 昭和のおとっつぁん
• 2024/02/01 (Thu) 15:59
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It seems to be okay for one person to stay at a relative's house, but
it is difficult to have a family and stay at a relative's house.
Relatives have lives too.

• 楓
• 2024/02/01 (Thu) 16:46
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You need to write a rationale why it is difficult.
Families stay with relatives and they do.

Oh, you mean there is no space to stay ？?

• 昭和のおとっつぁん
• 2024/02/02 (Fri) 09:17
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He fled for his life during the burning of Hieizan.
They fled for their lives in the battle of Osaka.

His ancestors fell from being peasants who drank water to peasants who could not even drink water
to the present day of extreme poverty.

• ウマシカハンター
• 2024/02/03 (Sat) 08:26
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A friend of mine said it was over $10,000 last summer for three parents and a child in economy.
That's expensive!