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Sex Education for Children

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#1
  • Ira
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  • 2022/10/06 21:16

I have a son who is currently in 6th grade.
He started middle school in September.

We thought he is still a child, but we found a history of him searching adult videos on his I Pad.
However, I am sure that he was still not sure about it, and he was also searching if he needed to do something to make a baby.
We have not restricted adult content on I Pad until now, but is it necessary to do so ?
At 12 years old, he will learn a lot of things, and I wonder if it would be wrong to restrict him ・ ・ ・.
I think he had a few days of sex education class at the end of 5th grade, but he probably doesn't understand it at all yet.
In middle school, I have the feeling that he heard about and investigated various things from friends and older children, but do I need to take any action from my parents?

I have restricted adult content on my PAD for now, but I'm not sure if I should really leave it open for viewing ・ ・ ・
He's my son, so I'd rather leave some things to his father rather than his mother saying this and that ! ?
Is there anything the mother can do now?
I would appreciate your advice.

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#3
  • まつみ
  • 2022/10/06 (Thu) 23:05
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Like #2, there are many people who write unnecessary things.
It doesn't matter if it's a man or a woman, someone's writing may be useful to someone else. As you said yourself, if it is a boy, I think it is possible to leave it to his father to some extent.
I think that the father can be the contact person to tell him what you and your wife have discussed, since he may have his own ideas.

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#4
  • いも
  • 2022/10/06 (Thu) 23:36
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I didn't think it was a man, though. Because this guy obviously doesn't know what adult videos are like.
If he knew, he would never show them to his children. They wouldn't be serious people if they watched those things from childhood. That's not education. Please make sure they can't see it.

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#8
  • サチ
  • 2022/10/07 (Fri) 10:17
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It's a path that everyone goes down, but the way information comes in nowadays is different from the way it did in the past, and parents have a hard time dealing with it. No matter how much you restrict what, children who want to know will look it up, and even children who are not interested will get it from their surroundings.
I think adult content should be restricted. Some of it is extreme, so that wrong sexual concepts are not created. 。。。。 But when they go to stay at a friend's house, if the house there doesn't have restrictions, they can all watch it together, so if that is a concern, talk to the parents of the house you are staying at ( and see if they have restrictions on adult sites there ). You could talk with your husband and come to a conclusion as to how far you should go ?

It is very normal for a middle schooler to have an interest in sex and be growing into a healthy boy. In my personal opinion, I don't think parents need to do anything ( other than limit adult content ). It's not something a mother should say, and in my opinion it doesn't need to come from the father either. That's how our family was raised.

However, recent research says here and there that sex education for children should be done before they are sexually awakened. And how to deal with this, in the case of middle school students who are already interested in sex, you can find a lot of information on the Internet by googling "middle school students, sex education," etc. You can find a lot of information about what parents should never do, and about children's problems at 、、、、.

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#9
  • Ira
  • 2022/10/07 (Fri) 10:30
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Thank you very much for your kind reply.
When I saw it on my I Pad, I was quite upset and wrote about it, but afterwards I googled it and was relieved to find out that it is a normal thing for junior high school students to grow up with.
I have put restrictions on adult contents !

The amount of information is completely different from my junior high school days, and I will try to have enough information for parents to be able to answer questions from their children in a normal way, rather than just letting it slide.
Thank you very much !

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