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• ときつかさ
• 2022/09/07 (Wed) 03:33
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I guess you don't know until you are in that situation. If that happens, I would at least like to pass away before I become a burden to those around me.

• 我が家の事情
• 2022/09/07 (Wed) 09:26
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My grandmother had always been a person who could do anything, but she was always pointing out people's faults, and she always criticized her daughters and they did not get along well with each other. After my grandfather passed away, no one wanted to live with her, so she got angry and said that no one would take care of her. She wasted the inheritance left by my grandfather and tried not to leave it to her daughters, which caused them to feel antagonistic toward her and estranged from her.
It has been almost two years since he collapsed from coronary disease and was found by a caregiver in the hospital, where he survived. She was treated like a prisoner, tied to a bed or wheelchair by a cord, in a hospital ward where she could see no one and was cared for by nurses she did not know.

The hospital is only covered by insurance for up to two years, and after that she is supposed to be moved to an assisted living facility, but because she wasted her inheritance, she can't afford it, and what she can't pay with her pension she has to pay from her grandmother's savings, and she doesn't know how long she has left. Since they don't know how long she will live, the family may have to bear the burden. I returned to Japan last month and visited my grandmother, but she didn't really understand me and when the nurse told her I was her grandson, she said she wanted to go home and watch TV over tea. I almost cried when I saw my grandmother, who had lost weight and was just talking about her needs like a child. My mother and aunt's long-standing hatred for my grandmother did not seem to change even a millimeter even after seeing her like that.

I have heard many stories about my mother and aunts, so I did not even talk to them about their behavior, but it was very complicated for me because I had seen my grandmother, who was always mean-spoken but really cared about her daughters, but I told her many times in the past, but it did not affect her at all. I told them many times over the years, but it never seemed to resonate with them. In the end, I think it was the wasteful use of my inheritance that ultimately drove my daughters away from me the most.

Incidentally, my grandmother used my grandfather's inheritance and insurance money to downsize the magnificent two-story house where the family of five lived to a one-story house and remodel the entrance and bathrooms for the elderly over the objections of those around her. So, he spent a lot of money, the value of the house went down, and there seems to be almost no inheritance left. I think it was a rebellion against his daughters who wouldn't live with him, but only a kind grandfather could live with such a moralistic person for so many years. Maybe that's why he died of cancer so early.

I don't know what the right thing to do is, but I have nothing but gratitude for my parents and if one of them eventually dies first, I will discuss it with my siblings and take care of them here if necessary. My mother was very kind and even when my father was having an affair, she sacrificed herself and raised us without a single complaint because she felt sorry for a single mother and child. I don't want to talk to her about it, but I don't think it's fair that she hates my grandmother so much.

• 安楽死
• 2022/09/07 (Wed) 20:31
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In the U.S., you can do it in some states

When you get old and need someone to take care of your excrement, you can let him go

Quality of life

• 選択
• 2022/09/08 (Thu) 08:37
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Death with dignity, not overtreatment.

• 昭和のおとっつぁん
• 2022/09/08 (Thu) 11:53
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This is the only thing that others cannot decide.
Only relatives can make decisions.

• 安楽死
• 2022/09/08 (Thu) 12:01
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You can decide for yourself
If others decide for you, it's murder.

• てか
• 2022/09/08 (Thu) 12:08
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I thought California banned euthanasia.

• 昭和のおとっつぁん
• 2022/09/08 (Thu) 16:39
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I can make my own decisions, then I have a good head on my shoulders
Why should I have to have someone else take care of my excrement too?

• 生命
• 2022/09/08 (Thu) 16:41
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It would be nice if we could determine our own lifespan.
But then, who wants to go hundreds or thousands of years? I don't find immortality or anything like that very appealing.

• 安楽死
• 2022/09/08 (Thu) 18:08
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Oregon can.

• はよう
• 2022/09/08 (Thu) 18:20
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California can euthanize you if you have 60 days left.
But, 60 days is not so long...
He should be allowed to pass away sooner, or he will suffer longer, depending on his illness.

• べろ
• 2022/09/09 (Fri) 12:06
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Really, 60 days left means.

• はよう
• 2022/09/09 (Fri) 12:29
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Sorry, I made a mistake, it was 6 months, not 60 days.
Still not enough, （ ： ＿ ； ）

• 安楽死
• 2022/09/09 (Fri) 13:56
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What's left ？

The remainder of life ？

• べろ
• 2022/09/09 (Fri) 16:58
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I understood it to be life expectancy, no?
Six months sounds better, but still.

• 団塊
• 2022/09/09 (Fri) 18:46
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＞ It was 6 months, not 60 days. That's still not enough, （ ： ＿ ； ）

I understand that euthanasia is OK if you are given a life expectancy, but that is good news. I don't want to suffer for no reason.

I guess Hayo-san is asking for permission for euthanasia from, say, a year before 6 months ？
I guess you can't declare life expectancy so early.

• てっけつ
• 2022/09/14 (Wed) 18:21
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Another false recruitment?

• どーしようもなく
• 2022/09/16 (Fri) 06:20
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You don't have enough people here and there.

• はよう
• 2022/09/16 (Fri) 10:25
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290, 291
Yes

292 Mr. Boomer
There are many diseases.
Anyway, I want them euthanized. Yes, yes, yes, yes.

• 日本は少子高齢化
• 2022/09/16 (Fri) 16:46
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Record number of people over 100 years old