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Unhappy children who inherited only the shortcomings of their parents.

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#1
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  • 2023/08/06 02:18

I wanted to post this because I wanted to ask you all to listen to the hard feelings I have been having for many years.
I would be happy to hear from anyone who has suffered through a similar situation as I have, and how they are trying to overcome it.

I am now in my 40's and worked for many years on both marriage and job hunting to move to LA, but ultimately my wish was not granted and I recently returned home.
I believe that the main reason why my life is not going well despite my best efforts is because
I inherited my mother's bad looks, which is rare in history, and my father's temperamental personality.
Being a woman and having poor looks is a fatal disadvantage. Her mother, who is in her 70s, is not good-looking, but she graduated from a top school and a first-class national university, is very intelligent, intellectually curious, and has a good way of doing everything, and has many friends with a likable personality. After giving birth, she became a housewife, but during her working years, she earned more money than her father. Because of this, she married her father, who is relatively wealthy, well-educated, and relatively good-looking. On the other hand, my father was smart and chose women based on the wavelength of conversation and their personalities, so he did not particularly care about their looks, but he is selfish, short-tempered, and quick-tempered. I am not as well-educated as my mother, and I don't feel the same yearning for a full-time housewife like my mother, and I don't like children either, so I longed for a single life in LA where I could be carefree. Since I was not good enough to get permanent residency on my own and did not have the good looks to get a man to marry me and support my permanent residency, I had to return home.

After returning home, I have found a full-time job, but it is almost a black company and does not seem to last.
I regret that I should have studied for more qualifications when I was young so that I could get a solid job. I am currently working on my studies, which I was not able to do when I was younger, and I am angry at my parents for not communicating the importance of getting a solid job when I was younger. Part of it is that my parents' generation did not place as much importance on women's financial independence, but all of their wishful thinking about me is off.
My appearance is not at a level that can be managed with petite plastic surgery.

Those who are not in my situation will not understand my situation.
I apologize for the length of this article, but I would be happy to hear from anyone who has overcome similar circumstances.

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#2
  • 昭和のおとっつぁん
  • 2023/08/07 (Mon) 08:00
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If you are looking to move to LA, isn't it possible to do so within Japan?

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#10
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  • 2023/08/07 (Mon) 10:44
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Unhappy child who inherited only the shortcomings of his parents
I worked on both marriage and job hunting for many years to move to LA

I am not sure why I would become
married for many years to move to LA when I inherited only the shortcomings of my parents.
Even if you come here to move to LA,
if you inherit only your parents' shortcomings, nothing will work out.
Why don't you forget about inheriting only your parents' shortcomings already?

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#29
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  • 2023/08/08 (Tue) 08:30
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I'm dreaming of moving to the U.S. and looking for a marriage... I know it sounds strange, but
don't foreign men tend to prefer Japanese girls who are not good looking?
I know it's a bad way to put it, but I think many Japanese girls who are not popular in Japan are popular here, and many of them are able to get married.
Sorry to use this as an example, but I personally think that Nicolas Cage's wife is also popular. I think....

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#39
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  • 2023/08/08 (Tue) 15:23
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I believe it is mainly due to the fact that I have inherited my mother's rare bad looks in history and my father's temperamental personality.
I think that the attitude of blaming others when it's your own thing is no good. I can usually figure out what kind of person he is.

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#41
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  • 2023/08/08 (Tue) 20:17
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Is this a fishing topic ？ or is it so childish and selfish that it doesn't make sense? My parents never taught me the importance of education. I think if you lived a normal life, you would know what is important to you. It depends on each person what is important.
My cousin graduated from high school and earns about $ 800K a year. She says that education is not important. My husband also graduated from high school and makes $ 160K a year, but he doesn't think he would have gotten the job he has now even with his education. I have a college degree but am now just a stay-at-home mom.

I do a good job of raising my children. There are many things that go well and many things that don't go well, but I am responsible for myself. My goal is to raise my children to be decent human beings by a certain age so that they will not have a hard time in the future.

I don't have a career, but each of us doesn't know what is important in life. If you think education is important, you should go back to school ？ and get a certificate ？. If you don't like children and don't want to have children, you can improve yourself without being in a hurry to have a baby.

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