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• きょう
• 2022/09/05 (Mon) 12:40
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#248
That, you all usually know. Emotional balance, taking care of yourself to the point of not disturbing your family, are the basics. There are really a lot of people who go out of their way to write about it, just to show off and say they are smart, even though it's normal.

• めいっこ
• 2022/09/05 (Mon) 13:45
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I don't want to write anything too negative, but it is true that there are many people who give very basic advice to care givers, even though they are not care givers. But it could be someone who is a natural or someone who is giving advice with the best of intentions. I've been reading the topic itself for a long time and have just kept quiet, but some of the responses are helpful.
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Question for the care givers. Suppose an agent comes in with a case for a very difficult client. How should you be told?

1. I know it's hard, but please do.
(Tell them how hard it is, but still ask for their help)

2. the client and their family are good people.
(I don't tell them how hard it is, but they still ask me to do the work)》

The question is not about which is right and which is wrong, but which you prefer. 1. seems to be more common, but 2. seems to be able to start without preconceived ideas, so surprisingly, some people choose 2. I asked this question in the hope that some of the respondents would choose 2. I asked this question because I thought it would be easier to start without any preconceptions.

• It’s a job.
• 2022/09/05 (Mon) 14:10
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> That, you all usually know.
Emotional balance, taking care of yourself to the point of not disturbing your family, are the basics.
There are really a lot of people who go out of their way to write about it, just to show off and say they are smart, even though it's normal.


Omgomgomg
an exchange square where you can't even say what you want to say
you are free to post what you want lol

this person is too sick and paranoid

ah scary

• It’s a job
• 2022/09/05 (Mon) 14:27
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I don't want to ask such a person to take care of my family. w
Actually, I often hear that men are better caregivers. They say they are kinder. I hear that women are more troublesome because they get emotional and the conversation gets complicated. It seems that men are the ones who can separate it from work after all. I can understand it from the posts here.

• うちの祖母
• 2022/09/05 (Mon) 14:30
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My grandmother, who is a bit of a blur, said that the nurses were always irritated and afraid of every little thing, but the nurses (male nurses) were always kind to her. My mother had them change the nurse in charge of her.

• クライアントにも
• 2022/09/05 (Mon) 14:37
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> That, you all usually know.
Emotional balance, taking care of yourself to the extent that you don't bother your family, those are the basics. There are really a lot of people who go out of their way to write about it, just to show off and say they are smart, even though it's normal.

When a client says something you don't like
I know that
and I'm sure you argue every single time
Caregiving and parenting are 10 different things for 10 different people
It seems that people with hard heads are not suited for this because they get neurotic from the stress

• 更年期
• 2022/09/05 (Mon) 14:40
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Young women are kind.

• 介護者の掲示板
• 2022/09/05 (Mon) 14:47
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#255 I agree with
. I thought it was a tough job at first. Certainly too emotional. When you are given an opinion, you say this opinion is good or this is bad. Are caregivers judges ？
To be clear, there are many people who have no other skills or nothing else they can do. So they complain a lot.
Isn't that a little low?

• 介護者の掲示板
• 2022/09/05 (Mon) 14:50
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Male caregivers don't squeak and squeal like this. The nurse who gave the client a bath also washed the client by pouring hot water on him very roughly. I don't want to be cared for by such people.

• It’s a job
• 2022/09/05 (Mon) 15:13
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Every job is hard
I just think you are overreacting to people's opinions
I was just giving my client's opinion that I don't want someone who is emotional when I ask for care...
The client has the right to choose.
I'm sure it's exhausting for the client to have such a personality, not just the caregiver
I just don't have to deal with it.

• うちの祖母
• 2022/09/05 (Mon) 15:19
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Oh, my blurry grandmother also said it was a woman who was violent and had a great attitude. I thought it was quite something to be a blur and still remember. I almost cried because I felt sorry for my grandmother. Now she seems to be at peace and doesn't complain because she is a man. Thank God.

• 義姉
• 2022/09/05 (Mon) 15:46
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Our sister-in-law is a caregiver for our mother-in-law.

She complained sometimes that my husband and I don't help her.
My mother-in-law and I are close, probably because we are about as far apart in age as my grandmother.
I don't mind helping her, but my sister-in-law gives me detailed instructions on how to do it, which is inefficient and frustrating to be honest. My husband wants to eat my food and sometimes asks me to go to his house, but my sister-in-law's jealousy is so obvious that I don't feel comfortable going there.

My sister-in-law is my own mother, but she often treats me badly.
Sometimes I feel sorry for her.
She should depend on others to be able to afford it, but her jealousy doesn't seem to allow it.

I guess caring has a lot to do with the emotions of the person doing it.
I don't care if I win or lose. This one just wants to see my mother-in-law's happy face.

• ＞＜
• 2022/09/05 (Mon) 16:34
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I don't want to do this anymore
I'm leaving before I need nursing care

• なんだか
• 2022/09/05 (Mon) 16:47
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I don't think it matters what the throwaway HN is, or that this HN was somewhere else.
Because even the person who writes so doesn't use the same HN all the time. I don't either. Isn't that how it is in the internet forum? I think it is wrong to storm as an adult.

My grandmother. I'm sorry to hear that. But there is a certain chemistry, and maybe she wanted a man to take care of her. He might have been safe because of his strength. My grandmother was fine with helpers who looked like they were in their 40s, but if they looked like they were in their 50s or older, she would have sent them home immediately at the door. I felt really bad.

Sister-in-law. I hear these things sometimes. Like being jealous of someone who is good at taking care of you. My sister-in-law feels like she's putting her own neck on the line. But maybe she was frustrated because she was her own mother. I wonder if I would feel the same way if I were in her shoes.

• なんだか
• 2022/09/05 (Mon) 16:48
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I want to get rid of them before I need care too.

• ときつかさ
• 2022/09/05 (Mon) 22:20
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A friend of mine who works in a nursing home office told me about a male caregiver who showed up at a client's home dressed in an odd outfit, ate his dinner, and even had a second helping of food. A male caregiver showed up at a client's home in a strange outfit, ate his meal, and even had a second helping of food. Although it did not sound like a complaint, he was told that he would prefer another caregiver if possible. Maybe he didn't understand common sense, but it is a matter of opinion, regardless of gender.

• ときつかさ
• 2022/09/05 (Mon) 22:30
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I've always thought that I don't want to live too long because of the hassle of this and that, but I wonder if it's possible to be afraid of death at hand.

• 無常
• 2022/09/06 (Tue) 06:22
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I believe that the feeling of fear is natural because we cannot decide whether a person lives or dies by ourselves.
Some people cannot die even if they commit suicide.

• ときつかさ
• 2022/09/06 (Tue) 08:08
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It's painful when you get seriously ill, need help from others, have to pay for medical care, and you're in pain too. On the other hand, suicide also takes a lot of courage.

• 精神を病む
• 2022/09/06 (Tue) 13:59
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It must be such a living hell that you are not afraid to die.
No wonder ordinary people don't understand.