Vivinavi : Los Angeles : (United States) Los Angeles

• monicasanta
• 2023/08/17 21:07

I would like to discuss child rearing.
Please especially those who have experienced international marriage and stepchild marriage.

I am a Japanese 35 year old man. My wife is an American 35 years old and a housewife.
We have four children, ages 10, 8, 5, and 2 from the top.

The two older children are the children of my wife and her ex-husband.
The ex-husband pays child support payments of $250 per person per month for a total of $500.
They have had chronic illnesses from the beginning that required hospital visits, but the ex-husband only pays $500 per month in child support.
Currently, they rarely see each other due to ex-husband's availability.

I have been with my older two since they were 4 and 2
I am proud to say that I have treated them as if they were my own.

In this day and age, especially in the US,
it is better to respect the biological father after a divorce and
treat the remarried father as a stepfather only.
My wife tells me "you are a stepfather" every time I have a conflict in parenting.

I am mortified every time.
It's been over 5 years now.
The oldest child has also been remarried longer.

Is it still just my small capacity ？?

• 70年代
• mail
• 2023/08/21 13:54

I know I'm getting older as I live my life, but
I'm already this old before I know it.

I'm getting tired of socializing
I've become very good at being alone
but it's still lonely not to be around people

How do you find new friends ？?

• 台風
• mail
• 2023/08/18 10:18

Please share information.

• カレー
• mail
• 2023/08/06 02:18

I wanted to post this because I wanted to ask you all to listen to the hard feelings I have been having for many years.
I would be happy to hear from anyone who has suffered through a similar situation as I have, and how they are trying to overcome it.

I am now in my 40's and worked for many years on both marriage and job hunting to move to LA, but ultimately my wish was not granted and I recently returned home.
I believe that the main reason why my life is not going well despite my best efforts is because
I inherited my mother's bad looks, which is rare in history, and my father's temperamental personality.
Being a woman and having poor looks is a fatal disadvantage. Her mother, who is in her 70s, is not good-looking, but she graduated from a top school and a first-class national university, is very intelligent, intellectually curious, and has a good way of doing everything, and has many friends with a likable personality. After giving birth, she became a housewife, but during her working years, she earned more money than her father. Because of this, she married her father, who is relatively wealthy, well-educated, and relatively good-looking. On the other hand, my father was smart and chose women based on the wavelength of conversation and their personalities, so he did not particularly care about their looks, but he is selfish, short-tempered, and quick-tempered. I am not as well-educated as my mother, and I don't feel the same yearning for a full-time housewife like my mother, and I don't like children either, so I longed for a single life in LA where I could be carefree. Since I was not good enough to get permanent residency on my own and did not have the good looks to get a man to marry me and support my permanent residency, I had to return home.

After returning home, I have found a full-time job, but it is almost a black company and does not seem to last.
I regret that I should have studied for more qualifications when I was young so that I could get a solid job. I am currently working on my studies, which I was not able to do when I was younger, and I am angry at my parents for not communicating the importance of getting a solid job when I was younger. Part of it is that my parents' generation did not place as much importance on women's financial independence, but all of their wishful thinking about me is off.
My appearance is not at a level that can be managed with petite plastic surgery.

Those who are not in my situation will not understand my situation.
I apologize for the length of this article, but I would be happy to hear from anyone who has overcome similar circumstances.

• Tyler
• mail
• 2023/08/16 22:52

I am an eighth grader and I am thinking of studying abroad, but I wonder if I can enroll if I have gardeians or other students. I would like to know the procedure for admission.

• 教えて
• mail
• 2023/08/17 20:01

Please tell me

how to get a good deal in LA.
Are there places like Japanese fat motors in LA
？?

• Hulu
• mail
• 2023/07/03 01:31

I have an extra room and would like to find a roommate.
Please tell me what kind of contract I should sign with my roommate.

Should I make a formal document and ask her to sign it?
Should I get a copy of the driver license?

I heard that someone I know had a bad roommate and had a hard time
I would like to know how you all do it.

Please do.

• JJ
• mail
• 2023/08/05 08:24

I went to a used bookstore on a weekday when there were few people around,
browsed a bit to buy some books,
then moved on to the manga section.
I'm totally sure the staff is sneaking around checking me out the whole time.
I pretend not to look, but it's so obvious. He must have looked like a shoplifter. But I felt really bad.
Are there others here ？?

• 水菜
• mail
• 2023/05/31 19:51

Question for "those who have a wardrobe deposit."
• How much money do you have in a safe deposit account? ？
• What are the advantages of a safe deposit account?
• What are the disadvantages of a wardrobe deposit?
• How do you plan to move your chest deposit if you return to Japan permanently ？?

• 金子
• mail
• 2023/07/24 21:25

Is 2000 a month a small amount to save for a single person?
How much money do you save?