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Those who are caring for a parent.

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#1
  • G
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  • 2023/01/28 02:48

Please let me know your opinion.
I lived in the U.S. for 10 years, but my mother asked me to come back to Japan because she was worried about being alone in her old age.
I was single in the U.S. but worked hard.

I was taking care of my mother while working full time back in Japan, but my health started to deteriorate and I realized that I could not continue to work
at the same time, so I quit the company. I was working happily in my new position and was receiving a monthly salary of 250,000 take-home pay.

I looked for a part time job this time, but it is only 100,000 a month since I work 3 times a week.
I am not married so I have to take care of myself in the future and when I was getting 250,000 I was saving 100,000
a month.

I am quitting my job to take care of my parents, so I would like to receive the amount I would receive if I worked 250,000 - 100,000 a month ＝ 150,000 a month from my mother for expenses
but she does not understand. Why do I have to pay
when I don't pay rent and I even pay for her meals ？
? She doesn't think about my life after my mother dies. What will she want me to do
when I'm 60 years old, taking care of her in her current condition?

My mother received an inheritance from my father and has money to spare. But she doesn't want to go into a nursing home.
Is my claim strange ？?

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#11
  • まぁまぁ
  • 2023/01/28 (Sat) 16:52
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I don't think the Lord is wrong
full time job as a caregiver

your mind must be flying
all kinds of thoughts

take your time and talk about it with your parents
it's important!

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#12
  • うむ
  • 2023/01/28 (Sat) 17:49
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That is not good for the mother. Perhaps the dementia has started and she does not understand well. You might want to talk to a lawyer here to see if you can manage your mother's personal property. I hear that many bad guys are after the elderly people's money, so please be careful.

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#13
  • おっさん
  • 2023/01/28 (Sat) 18:44
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You want to get 150,000 yen a month as salary ？ from your parents ？ Wow!

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#14
  • G
  • 2023/01/28 (Sat) 19:07
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My mother doesn't want to be in a nursing home and she doesn't want to be in someone else's care.
That is where I have a problem.
My mother has never worked, but she rounds up a lot of money for me.
So I am thinking of getting my own 150,000 a month and paying for food and expenses from that.

In fact, my sister and I received some money as a living gift, but I have not touched it because I will use it for my own retirement.
My sister is married with children, but she is still begging for this 10 pension from my parents, so I think it is reasonable that she should get 150,000
since I will be taking care of my mother in the future. Otherwise, I don't need the money every month, so if you can put the house in my name
that's a different story.

Should I ask a financial planner or a lawyer about these things?

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#16
  • 自分の老後
  • 2023/01/28 (Sat) 21:18
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I want to die without bothering my kids.

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