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Unhappy children who inherited only the shortcomings of their parents.

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#1
  • カレー
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  • 2023/08/06 02:18

I wanted to post this because I wanted to ask you all to listen to the hard feelings I have been having for many years.
I would be happy to hear from anyone who has suffered through a similar situation as I have, and how they are trying to overcome it.

I am now in my 40's and worked for many years on both marriage and job hunting to move to LA, but ultimately my wish was not granted and I recently returned home.
I believe that the main reason why my life is not going well despite my best efforts is because
I inherited my mother's bad looks, which is rare in history, and my father's temperamental personality.
Being a woman and having poor looks is a fatal disadvantage. Her mother, who is in her 70s, is not good-looking, but she graduated from a top school and a first-class national university, is very intelligent, intellectually curious, and has a good way of doing everything, and has many friends with a likable personality. After giving birth, she became a housewife, but during her working years, she earned more money than her father. Because of this, she married her father, who is relatively wealthy, well-educated, and relatively good-looking. On the other hand, my father was smart and chose women based on the wavelength of conversation and their personalities, so he did not particularly care about their looks, but he is selfish, short-tempered, and quick-tempered. I am not as well-educated as my mother, and I don't feel the same yearning for a full-time housewife like my mother, and I don't like children either, so I longed for a single life in LA where I could be carefree. Since I was not good enough to get permanent residency on my own and did not have the good looks to get a man to marry me and support my permanent residency, I had to return home.

After returning home, I have found a full-time job, but it is almost a black company and does not seem to last.
I regret that I should have studied for more qualifications when I was young so that I could get a solid job. I am currently working on my studies, which I was not able to do when I was younger, and I am angry at my parents for not communicating the importance of getting a solid job when I was younger. Part of it is that my parents' generation did not place as much importance on women's financial independence, but all of their wishful thinking about me is off.
My appearance is not at a level that can be managed with petite plastic surgery.

Those who are not in my situation will not understand my situation.
I apologize for the length of this article, but I would be happy to hear from anyone who has overcome similar circumstances.

This text has been translated by auto-translation. There may be a slight difference between the original text and the translation. (Original Language: 日本語)

#95
  • 昭和のおとっつぁん
  • 2023/08/15 (Tue) 14:04
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The hardships our family must endure in the future will be extraordinary.
We will endure the unendurable and persevere in the unendurable
We will strive to create peace for all time and share the joy of mutual prosperity with all nations
We will be firm in our resolve and vow to uplift the spirit of our family
We will strive to keep pace with the progress of the world.

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#96
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  • 2023/08/15 (Tue) 14:11
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There was a conversion error so I am reposting this.

I am glad to see that you are doing better than I expected, I thought you must be in a very difficult situation since your posts in #1 were pathetic. You say that you have not inherited any of the smartness, but you are really good at writing and I don't think you are dumb at all. I think that you are just being compared with your mother, who is very intelligent, and that makes you feel that you are not smart enough. Or perhaps you are surrounded by many other people who are very smart, and that makes you feel that you are not smart enough.
It is also quite common in Japan for students to live their university life without thinking deeply about employment or their major, and not studying hard enough. If you feel later that you wanted to go to a national university or study something different, I think it is not too late to do so. I went to college for a semester when I was in my mid-40s and enjoyed it very much. I have since been unable to continue, but I have not given up hope of going to college in my 50's. I still have things I want to study. I have things I want to study. In fact, there were people who were older than me taking the same classes, and I didn't care about my age when it came to learning. I think it is never too late to study, to go to college, or to get a certificate, no matter what age you are. You say yourself that you are not good looking, but if you are one of the worst looking people in history, you may not even want to go out and meet people.
Ms. Curry is well loved by her parents, is good at English, and was well educated and was pampered.
I think she is not as bad looking as she thinks she is. She also went to college, got a job, and has the ability to go to the U.S., so I don't think she is as middle-aged and lacking in substance as she thinks she is. He received enough love from his parents.
I can learn English well and have a good command of English.
I was able to go to university.
I could get a job.
I was able to live in Los Angeles, which is my dream, and I have a hope to return.
I think you are very blessed with just these five things. If you think you are empty inside, I believe that you can improve your contents any number of ways from now on.

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#96
  • 昭和のおとっつぁん
  • 2023/08/15 (Tue) 14:13
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If a couple leaves each other, they think they are cheating on each other.

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#98
  • 日本
  • 2023/08/15 (Tue) 14:29
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I could have easily predicted that someone would say something like #93, but it appears so soon.
Each family has its own circumstances and you are not in a position to tell them what to do.
I don't want to live in something I don't want to live in, but I don't have a choice.

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#99
  • はな
  • 2023/08/15 (Tue) 15:20
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>Who can reply ？

I don't understand.
Who is it other than you ？ On the contrary, who is it ？

>I think you will be convinced if you read 77's opinion.

Please don't force me to convince you.

>Replying is not forcing.

Again, convincing is not forcing either.
I have also made a topical reply, but even if my mentality is at its worst, I at least responded with something and a short reply.
I think you are beating yourself up by trying to write in long sentences because of your character.

> There, incomprehensible words and scolding from others can pierce the heart like a deadly weapon for the weak of heart.

I don't know how to put it, but my opinion is similar to #91, so I hope you can take it from there. And why does #82 make it difficult to understand without using his own HN?

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