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Unhappy children who inherited only the shortcomings of their parents.

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#1
  • カレー
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  • 2023/08/06 02:18

I wanted to post this because I wanted to ask you all to listen to the hard feelings I have been having for many years.
I would be happy to hear from anyone who has suffered through a similar situation as I have, and how they are trying to overcome it.

I am now in my 40's and worked for many years on both marriage and job hunting to move to LA, but ultimately my wish was not granted and I recently returned home.
I believe that the main reason why my life is not going well despite my best efforts is because
I inherited my mother's bad looks, which is rare in history, and my father's temperamental personality.
Being a woman and having poor looks is a fatal disadvantage. Her mother, who is in her 70s, is not good-looking, but she graduated from a top school and a first-class national university, is very intelligent, intellectually curious, and has a good way of doing everything, and has many friends with a likable personality. After giving birth, she became a housewife, but during her working years, she earned more money than her father. Because of this, she married her father, who is relatively wealthy, well-educated, and relatively good-looking. On the other hand, my father was smart and chose women based on the wavelength of conversation and their personalities, so he did not particularly care about their looks, but he is selfish, short-tempered, and quick-tempered. I am not as well-educated as my mother, and I don't feel the same yearning for a full-time housewife like my mother, and I don't like children either, so I longed for a single life in LA where I could be carefree. Since I was not good enough to get permanent residency on my own and did not have the good looks to get a man to marry me and support my permanent residency, I had to return home.

After returning home, I have found a full-time job, but it is almost a black company and does not seem to last.
I regret that I should have studied for more qualifications when I was young so that I could get a solid job. I am currently working on my studies, which I was not able to do when I was younger, and I am angry at my parents for not communicating the importance of getting a solid job when I was younger. Part of it is that my parents' generation did not place as much importance on women's financial independence, but all of their wishful thinking about me is off.
My appearance is not at a level that can be managed with petite plastic surgery.

Those who are not in my situation will not understand my situation.
I apologize for the length of this article, but I would be happy to hear from anyone who has overcome similar circumstances.

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#2
  • 昭和のおとっつぁん
  • 2023/08/07 (Mon) 08:00
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If you are looking to move to LA, isn't it possible to do so within Japan?

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#10
  • 昭和のおとっつぁん
  • 2023/08/07 (Mon) 10:44
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Unhappy child who inherited only the shortcomings of his parents
I worked on both marriage and job hunting for many years to move to LA

I am not sure why I would become
married for many years to move to LA when I inherited only the shortcomings of my parents.
Even if you come here to move to LA,
if you inherit only your parents' shortcomings, nothing will work out.
Why don't you forget about inheriting only your parents' shortcomings already?

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#29
  • はな
  • 2023/08/08 (Tue) 08:30
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I'm dreaming of moving to the U.S. and looking for a marriage... I know it sounds strange, but
don't foreign men tend to prefer Japanese girls who are not good looking?
I know it's a bad way to put it, but I think many Japanese girls who are not popular in Japan are popular here, and many of them are able to get married.
Sorry to use this as an example, but I personally think that Nicolas Cage's wife is also popular. I think....

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#39
  • ワクチン義務化
  • 2023/08/08 (Tue) 15:23
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I believe it is mainly due to the fact that I have inherited my mother's rare bad looks in history and my father's temperamental personality.
I think that the attitude of blaming others when it's your own thing is no good. I can usually figure out what kind of person he is.

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#41
  • 笑ってはいけないけど
  • 2023/08/08 (Tue) 20:17
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Is this a fishing topic ? or is it so childish and selfish that it doesn't make sense? My parents never taught me the importance of education. I think if you lived a normal life, you would know what is important to you. It depends on each person what is important.
My cousin graduated from high school and earns about $ 800K a year. She says that education is not important. My husband also graduated from high school and makes $ 160K a year, but he doesn't think he would have gotten the job he has now even with his education. I have a college degree but am now just a stay-at-home mom.

I do a good job of raising my children. There are many things that go well and many things that don't go well, but I am responsible for myself. My goal is to raise my children to be decent human beings by a certain age so that they will not have a hard time in the future.

I don't have a career, but each of us doesn't know what is important in life. If you think education is important, you should go back to school ? and get a certificate ?. If you don't like children and don't want to have children, you can improve yourself without being in a hurry to have a baby.

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#43
  • はな
  • 2023/08/08 (Tue) 23:00
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If petit plastic surgery won't help, why don't you work hard to earn money and get a full-fledged plastic surgery? I think.
I'm writing like this, but honestly, I'm working my ass off. In the end, I feel that you are only blaming others and not seeing the sweetness in yourself, plus you are being sneaky.

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#45
  • 私も親の悪いとこ取り
  • 2023/08/09 (Wed) 05:55
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Mr. Curry, you are neither childish nor selfish. You are a good writer and I get the impression that you are a smart and serious person.
I think the problem is not so much her looks or education, but her low self-esteem and lack of oxytocin and serotonin. Ms. Curry probably grew up lonely and lonely due to lack of love from her parents. If she had received proper affection, she would have grown up being told she was pretty and lovely, and such people would grow up bright and loved by others, even if their original form was not good.
If they are brought up with a lack of love and affection, they will grow up with a dark face and a lack of self-confidence, and they will keep thinking about what is wrong with them.
To manage to give yourself a sense of self-esteem, self-confidence, and happiness that a child raised with love can usually have, you can start with foods such as bananas and meat, which are sources of serotonin, exposure to sunlight, walking, and light exercise. Oxytocin, the hormone of affection, can also be produced by being kind to others and making them happy, or by smiling and waving at children you meet when shopping. Sleeping with a dog or cat that gives you straight-up affection is said to produce as much or more oxytocin as sleeping with a lover or spouse. If you can't have a dog or cat, you can also give your love to fish or birds. I used to go to Inokashira Park often. At first, the birds only recognized me as a person who fed them, but eventually they began to gather around me with affection. As is well known, crows are very intelligent. Even if you are not confident in your appearance or not good at socializing, animals will still give you pure love. It is okay to give love to plants. While doing so, you can make friends who like animals and plants as well, or you can connect with people through other hobbies. The friends you make in this way will not care whether you look good or bad. When you have a cheerful face and atmosphere, they will not care about your bad face and people will see what's inside of you.
If you don't like people, you can find happiness in books and movies.

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#46
  • 私も親の悪いとこ取り
  • 2023/08/09 (Wed) 06:13
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As for appearance, when you are young, you worry about it, but when you reach middle age, you might as well open your mind to the fact that it doesn't matter anymore. I cut my own hair at random, I don't even look in the mirror, and now I can hide my ugliness with a mask, so it's easy for me. I think I will continue to wear the mask even after the corona is over.
If you are really worried about your appearance, you can study the makeup method, if you watch Chinese makeup on Youtube, you will see that your eyes, nose, and facial structure look like a different person, the power of makeup is amazing.

If you are looking for someone who is beautiful but cold, or someone who is ugly but kind and warm, I think that many people would prefer the latter. Don't worry about people who are cold, make fun of you, or talk about you behind your back because of your bad looks.

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#48
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  • 2023/08/09 (Wed) 07:54
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It must have taken a lot of beating to have it erased as much as it has. I think it is a genuine concern for women.
Personality is a good thing if you are careful, don't lose your temper, and respect your partner. As for looks, if you have a good personality, looks are secondary, just like beautiful women get bored in 3 days and ugly women can become ugly in 3 days. My parents say that even if you are ugly, if you are charming, you will be more adorable than if you are beautiful and twinkly.
I know someone who is ugly, short, and chubby, and it surprised me at first, but I got used to it. I was surprised at first, but soon got used to it.
Be ambitious and do your best. I think many people can see the good in you.

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#49
  • 私も親の悪いとこ取り
  • 2023/08/09 (Wed) 08:06
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In fact, many children in Japan, Korea, and China think that their life is over if they fail the entrance examinations.
It may take some time and years to escape from the spell of having to go to a good school, but if you continue to wish to go to a good university, it is not too late, regardless of your age. If working in a black job is too painful for you, you can take the plunge and change jobs or even change to another part time job and go to college. I think it is possible to try again in the U.S. And as others have said, there are many Japanese women married to American men who wear makeup like Otemoyan, regardless of their appearance, so I think Curry-san has a good chance to get married. How about trying to be friendly rather than good-looking? You said you have a temper, but of course you can fix it, and you can change your personality as much as you want later. A mild-mannered person can turn into an angry person, or a short-tempered person can turn into a tolerant person.

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#50

I will be direct.
You are a refractive, helpless person. If your parents are alive, it is their fault; if they are dead, it is society's fault. There are many people like you in the world. I am one of them. I am a man, but I have a friend who looks like you.
I am a man, but I have a friend who looks like you. Everyone sees her as an animalistic type. Her face is a bulldog face that I wish was a panda. Her body shape is short and fat. I'm sure she did a whole lot of makeup and a whole lot of fashion. In the end, none of it suited her. Now it's plain. It's strange, but I'm popular with both men and women. I'm like a sister to women and charming to men.
She brightens up everyone around her and is not sarcastic.
Because she is such a person, she is also married to a proper man.

If you are only concerned about your appearance, borrow money from your parents and go to Korea
How about plastic surgery ? I think it will change you to a certain extent.
For body shape, go to Lizap.
Have you made any effort ?
What is missing is not your looks, but fixing your ugly personality.
Some people on this forum have given you appropriate advice, but did you reply properly ?
That is what you are missing.

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#55
  • 昭和のおとっつぁん
  • 2023/08/09 (Wed) 14:30
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This place makes you feel like you're back home in Japan.
Leisure near is better than leisure far.

Let's go back to that hometown... Let's go back...
Let's write off the shame of travel

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#60

Mr. Curry


Mother's education Kyoto University graduate
Father's education Waseda University graduate
Curry education Gakushuin graduate
Curry appearance Sae Miyagawa

Specifically, is this what you mean?

If you are fluent in English, highly educated, and still in your 40s, you should be able to find a partner. If you are in your 50s and 60s, this is serious.
You should not aim too high and lower your partner's specifications while you are still in your 40s.

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#61
  • 昭和のおとっつぁん
  • 2023/08/10 (Thu) 07:12
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50
Don't look for alas of others
Tell them how they can eliminate trauma in the future.

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#62
  • Tyo
  • 2023/08/10 (Thu) 12:32
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61

You're the one who started it.

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#63
  • 昭和のおとっつぁん
  • 2023/08/10 (Thu) 13:49
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I know you want to complain, but
let's live our lives with gratitude to our parents.

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#64
  • 昭和のおとっつぁん
  • 2023/08/10 (Thu) 15:02
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Be thankful for your parents, whatever their past.

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#65
  • おとっつぁま
  • 2023/08/10 (Thu) 16:06
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Straightforward Otani's advice ----------

If you are only concerned about your appearance, borrow money from your parents and go to Korea
How about plastic surgery ? I think it will change you in a certain way.
I'll go to LYZAP for my body shape.




Advice from a Showa-era father ----------

Nearby leisure than far away leisure
Let's go back to that hometown - Let's go back
Don't write off the shame of travel
Be grateful to your parents, no matter what the past may have been.

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#67
  • 昭和のおとっつぁん
  • 2023/08/10 (Thu) 16:31
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Yes, thanks to you, I say thank you to Japan every morning and evening.
Morning, good morning, may you live safely today
Evening, thank you for living safely today

Grandma and grandpa, please come back to this world soon with a new life.

I am the person I am today because my mother suffered and gave birth to me.

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#68
  • ゲゲゲ
  • 2023/08/11 (Fri) 12:58
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Topi, paranoid.

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#70
  • 親の悪いとこ取り
  • 2023/08/12 (Sat) 07:46
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I found a very good article.

If life is 100 years, one's 50s is the turning point. It is up to you whether you think "I am already at this age" or "I can still do my best".

7 habits that have turned my life around since I was 50
Your 50s are the second half of your life. The world you will see when you reach the age of 60 will be different between those who say, "No matter what I do now, I can see the future" and don't make any effort, and those who believe that "I may still be able to do something" and act accordingly.

"Good beliefs" and "bad beliefs"
Good beliefs have "room to grow" and can grow if you work hard.
In other words, by adopting good beliefs, life will go the way you want it to go.

( 1 ) Praise yourself a lot
There are higher-ups in the world. If you compare yourself with others, you will inevitably focus on your own inadequacies. Instead, be "honestly pleased" with your own growth in what you have achieved.
Anyone can do this, it's no big deal. Anyone can do it, it's not a big deal," but rather, "Yay ! I did it !. When I can rejoice in small successes, little by little I can trust myself, and gradually I am able to take on bigger and bigger challenges.

( 2 ) At the end of the day, write down "what I could do today" and "what was good" in a notebook and look back
at the good things. This will help you end the day with positive feelings and increase your self-esteem. You will also develop the habit of looking for good things.
If you look back on the notebook regularly, such as after one month, three months, or six months, you will gain confidence and think, "I did such a good job !" or "I am not so bad. Once, when I was depressed because of an unexpected failure, I wrote down in a notebook what I had done in those six months and regained my confidence.

( 3 ) Choosing a partner
If you think negatively about things, "anyway" and "but", you will tend to be reluctant to try new things. Life is long and short. I think it is important to clarify what kind of person you want to spend your finite time with.

( 4 ) Associating with people who have the same dreams
If I want to make my current dreams and wishes come true, I try to associate with people who have similar dreams. It is to these people that I talk more and more about my " big dreams that I am " embarrassed" to talk about. I say things like, "Someday I want to do this," or "Next time I want to do something like this."
Then they will definitely say, "Great !," and they will give you a piece of wisdom. Then it will be easier for you to give yourself permission to do it, and you will be able to take positive action.

(5) ) "Create a home" where you can always be in a good mood
・ Place houseplants
・ Keep things off the floor
・ Wash windows regularly
・ Decline regularly
・ Don't buy things just because they are cheap
・ Don't take things for free
・ Burn aroma
・ Make time for tea
・ Dispose of mail immediately
・ Do minor cleaning by yourself Do major cleaning by a professional

(6) ) Remember humility and gratitude
You are not who you are because of yourself, but because of the help of others. I think I have more smiles on my face since I started to consciously use the word "thank you."

( 7 ) When in doubt, make a quick decision
We are constantly making small decisions from the time we wake up in the morning until we go to bed.
Narrowing down our choices prevents decision fatigue. And when I am really confused, I try to trust my intuition.
To do this, it is important to have clear criteria for your decisions. I believe that life is yaruka ・ yaranaika, only two choices, right or left, so I don't waste time goofing around and thinking. If I fail, I consider it an exercise in decision accuracy.

-Middle Way Ansan-

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#72
  • はな
  • 2023/08/13 (Sun) 09:43
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So many replies, but no response, Nopi. Writing is not compulsory, but it is a fact that each of us writes on our own time.
Since he can leave it under such circumstances, it is a matter of humanity that he himself has cultivated.
He inherited the bad parts from his parents? That's funny.
This is the kind of person who will never get along in the real world.
All because of others? Is it the parents' fault?
Don't give me excuses like "I was in a bad mood, my phone/PC was broken, I was too busy to write".
Even if it was fishing and pi, he/she has a problem with human nature too.

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#73
  • 人生
  • 2023/08/13 (Sun) 15:49
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Those who succeed will succeed in any situation.
Those who do not will not under any circumstances.

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#74
  • 昭和のおとっつぁん
  • 2023/08/13 (Sun) 16:02
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If I can live every day safely and without complaint, I don't have high hopes.

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#75

There may be some cultural differences, but it may not be much different no matter where you are located.

It works out ・ or doesn't partly by luck and timing, but so far, as far as I have seen various results, I feel that it has generally been "the result of my own actions" after living for more than half a century.

Just as the word "antithesis" is used, I think one of the ways is to try to think positively about being in the situation and try to think and act from a completely opposite point of view.

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#76
  • ゲゲゲ
  • 2023/08/14 (Mon) 09:27
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#72
100% agree.

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#77
  • 親の悪いとこ取り
  • 2023/08/14 (Mon) 10:28
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Mr. Curry is troubled and suffering. It is not fair to say that it is a problem of human nature or that it is her own fault.
I think there was no one or no opportunity to convey a positive message to Ms. Curry that she is pretty even if she is not beautiful or ugly, that it is okay if she worked hard even if she did not go to a good university, or that it is not too late to get a qualification. She is angry at her parents for not teaching her many things. I don't know if they didn't love her enough or if her parents just weren't good at talking and couldn't convey their love to her. However, Ms. Curry has been through a lonely and painful time. In such a situation, incomprehensive words or scolding from others can pierce the heart like a deadly weapon for a person with a weak heart. Perhaps Ms. Curry has not been treated kindly by others and has been treated unreasonably and coldly. If you have low self-esteem and self-esteem, it is difficult for people to like you, and you are stuck in a vicious cycle where people are cold and mean to you, and you become more and more disgusted with both people and yourself. Curry writes that she would be happy to hear from anyone who has been able to overcome similar circumstances. When I am distressed, weak, or depressed, I may not have the energy to do anything. There is no need to force me to reply or respond from the side.

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#79
  • はな
  • 2023/08/14 (Mon) 12:14
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I dared to comment in a harsh tone after a few or so.
Why is that? Because you made such a long and topical comment blaming others, and did not include anything about yourself.
Forcing a reply or response? If you start a topic by yourself and get no response, you must be the type of person who can't think about others at all.
No matter how polite the topix author's writing is, I think it's quite selfish, isn't it? Do you think that everyone but Topi lives an easy life without suffering? To be honest, I had thought as you did, #78, because it is honestly rare to get such defensive responses on such a topic. You know yourself well.

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#80
  • カレーライス
  • 2023/08/14 (Mon) 16:59
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#Yes, thanks to you, I say thank you to Japan every morning and evening.

It was because of the support of his parents that the Showa Otouta became a successful businessman at a young age and captured the American dream. It is only natural that he should be grateful.

It is not so easy when you hate your parents like Topi-dama does.

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#81
  • 紅夜叉
  • 2023/08/14 (Mon) 17:22
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I grew up without knowing what my parents looked like.
I wonder how my parents are doing, I miss them.

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#82
  • 72と77
  • 2023/08/14 (Mon) 21:30
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I understand what you say, 72, but who can reply ?
I think it would make sense if you read 77's opinion.
Replies are not mandatory.
Especially in the exchange forum

where incomprehensive words and scolding from others can pierce the heart like a deadly weapon for the weak of heart.

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#84
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  • 2023/08/15 (Tue) 01:15
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Right after I posted, I thought my post was not published because it was erased several times.
( I live in Japan, but I still check Vivinavi regularly as I am not yet ready for LA life. )
I apologize for not replying to you. For me, messages from those of you who have realized your life's dream and are living in LA, including criticism, resonate with me more than anyone else.
I have received appropriate advice, but it is not something I can reply to casually, and I need
days to report that the problem has been solved, so I would like to hasten to express my deep appreciation for the messages, including criticism, from so many of you.

I found it comforting to hear about people who are not good looking but are getting married because of their looks, which are desirable by American standards;
I found it comforting to hear about people who are not good looking but have good character, and are blessed with a good marriage and fulfilling lives;
I am feeling hopeless, and it was a comfort to me.

In my case, whether it was a matter of appearance, personality, or luck, I could not succeed in obtaining permanent residence through marriage.
I thought I had prepared before coming to the U.S., but I was not able to succeed in obtaining permanent residency through employment because of my work and lack of ability.

My parents ( especially my mother ) gave me enough love, psychologically, by worldly standards.
However, the purpose of raising a child was not only to send her to college, but also to guide her to be able to stand on her own and live independently
even if she was a woman.
When I was young, I was good at English by Japanese standards and had a certain level of education, so I took advantage of being treated well and did not make any effort to improve my skills
. As a result, I became an empty middle-aged man.

Furthermore, my mother knew from my early elementary school years that I was actually not very smart, and at that time in Japan, people who could speak English were highly valued, so
she thought that even if I was a little stupid, I could get a job in Japan to some extent if I could speak English.
So, even though I am a national university graduate, I have never been told to aim for a national university.
Moreover, I never thought about the importance of finding a job, so I chose my major by a process of elimination and did not study well in college.
Perhaps this is unthinkable by American standards.

I am angry about the bad looks I inherited from my mother, but I am not considering plastic surgery.
I am not bothering people with my bad appearance, and unlike the past, nowadays women are allowed to live alone,
so I don't think I need to force myself to change my appearance to one that men will like. I think that a mother who is too bad looking usually had an unfavorable life, but she had an excellent brain backed by a high education, earned more than her father despite the era of male domination, had a good personality that people liked and she was exceptionally well liked by her father and had an above average without any particular difficulties. I think he was able to lead an above average life.

The hard part is that he is unlucky to have inherited only his mother's bad looks and none of her smarts backed by her high education.
Also, he cannot help but cure his temperamental and snappy personality, which is similar to his father's.
Being a beauty of character is a very difficult subject.
Also, I am trying my best, but sometimes I feel that if I were in my thirties, I would have more time to acquire more skills and
have a better job and have a more stable life.

However, I feel a little better now that you LA residents have asked me what I couldn't say to others before. Thank you to those who told me that my temper can be cured, and to those who encouraged me through private messages. I will try to accept my painful fate and try a little harder.
My dream is to return to LA someday.

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#85
  • 昭和のおとっつぁん
  • 2023/08/15 (Tue) 08:02
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I live in Japan, but if you're not ready for LA life
you're just going to get lost
so make a fresh start and cut the back hair.

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#86
  • 昭和のおとっつぁん。
  • 2023/08/15 (Tue) 09:05
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> I could not succeed to get permanent residence through marriage.

You say this as if it is a matter of course, but I know ? this is what incompetent people like Mr. Japayuki from the Philippines do in Japan
well, there are many Japanese women who did the same thing over here and it made it hard to get visa. Well, there are a lot of Japanese women who did the same thing over here.

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#87
  • hello-
  • 2023/08/15 (Tue) 09:19
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I think that as you get older, a woman with beautiful skin and tastes will come in handy. Don't be discouraged and do your best in everything with sincerity. I think there are people who are watching you. I will try to get a job at a company that will allow me to return to the U.S. Hurry up and do it.

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#88
  • 昭和のおとっつぁん
  • 2023/08/15 (Tue) 09:44
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There will be no problem to obtain permanent residence through marriage.
If the partner comes to Japan, he/she will go through the procedures to be able to live in Japan without any problems
The partner will also think carefully about how to enable a Japanese person to marry and live in a foreign country.
It is also a problem to make decisions about a person's life by the book.

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#91
  • ロム専
  • 2023/08/15 (Tue) 11:40
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How many roles does one person play, and when called upon, they come out in a hurry. There are so many naive people, so many suspicious responses. I often see people who are mentally weak, but they go out in front of many people, and they should think about what they are doing. The same goes for these forums. That is what it means to appear in front of an unspecified number of people. It is natural that there are different opinions, and there is a possibility of being slandered. It is your own ignorance that you do not understand this. And it is strange for those around them to support them. These are the type of people who are told by non-professionals around them, "No, no, no, no, no, no, that's not true! Instead of doing so, they go for proper counseling. You should save up money and get plastic surgery, or take some other action.

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#92
  • 日本
  • 2023/08/15 (Tue) 11:50
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I moved to the US even though I don't want to live there. \I am so envious of those who can live in Japan as a matter of course and sigh everyday.

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#93
  • 昭和のおとっつぁん
  • 2023/08/15 (Tue) 12:56
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I don't even want to live there, but if you want to emigrate to the U.S., have him move to Japan by himself.

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#94
  • Youは
  • 2023/08/15 (Tue) 13:06
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You're breaking up a couple.

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#95
  • 昭和のおとっつぁん
  • 2023/08/15 (Tue) 14:04
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The hardships our family must endure in the future will be extraordinary.
We will endure the unendurable and persevere in the unendurable
We will strive to create peace for all time and share the joy of mutual prosperity with all nations
We will be firm in our resolve and vow to uplift the spirit of our family
We will strive to keep pace with the progress of the world.

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#96
  • 77
  • 2023/08/15 (Tue) 14:11
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There was a conversion error so I am reposting this.

I am glad to see that you are doing better than I expected, I thought you must be in a very difficult situation since your posts in #1 were pathetic. You say that you have not inherited any of the smartness, but you are really good at writing and I don't think you are dumb at all. I think that you are just being compared with your mother, who is very intelligent, and that makes you feel that you are not smart enough. Or perhaps you are surrounded by many other people who are very smart, and that makes you feel that you are not smart enough.
It is also quite common in Japan for students to live their university life without thinking deeply about employment or their major, and not studying hard enough. If you feel later that you wanted to go to a national university or study something different, I think it is not too late to do so. I went to college for a semester when I was in my mid-40s and enjoyed it very much. I have since been unable to continue, but I have not given up hope of going to college in my 50's. I still have things I want to study. I have things I want to study. In fact, there were people who were older than me taking the same classes, and I didn't care about my age when it came to learning. I think it is never too late to study, to go to college, or to get a certificate, no matter what age you are. You say yourself that you are not good looking, but if you are one of the worst looking people in history, you may not even want to go out and meet people.
Ms. Curry is well loved by her parents, is good at English, and was well educated and was pampered.
I think she is not as bad looking as she thinks she is. She also went to college, got a job, and has the ability to go to the U.S., so I don't think she is as middle-aged and lacking in substance as she thinks she is. He received enough love from his parents.
I can learn English well and have a good command of English.
I was able to go to university.
I could get a job.
I was able to live in Los Angeles, which is my dream, and I have a hope to return.
I think you are very blessed with just these five things. If you think you are empty inside, I believe that you can improve your contents any number of ways from now on.

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#96
  • 昭和のおとっつぁん
  • 2023/08/15 (Tue) 14:13
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If a couple leaves each other, they think they are cheating on each other.

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#98
  • 日本
  • 2023/08/15 (Tue) 14:29
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I could have easily predicted that someone would say something like #93, but it appears so soon.
Each family has its own circumstances and you are not in a position to tell them what to do.
I don't want to live in something I don't want to live in, but I don't have a choice.

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#99
  • はな
  • 2023/08/15 (Tue) 15:20
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>Who can reply ?

I don't understand.
Who is it other than you ? On the contrary, who is it ?

>I think you will be convinced if you read 77's opinion.

Please don't force me to convince you.

>Replying is not forcing.

Again, convincing is not forcing either.
I have also made a topical reply, but even if my mentality is at its worst, I at least responded with something and a short reply.
I think you are beating yourself up by trying to write in long sentences because of your character.

> There, incomprehensible words and scolding from others can pierce the heart like a deadly weapon for the weak of heart.

I don't know how to put it, but my opinion is similar to #91, so I hope you can take it from there. And why does #82 make it difficult to understand without using his own HN?

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#100
  • 昭和のおとっつぁん
  • 2023/08/15 (Tue) 17:21
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I am not a big man who tells strangers what to do. Also, I have no taste for peeking into other people's home affairs. I don't want to live in a place I don't want to live, but I have no choice.
I don't care if you write your complaints here
I can see that you and your husband don't seem to have any discussions.

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#101
  • 日本
  • 2023/08/15 (Tue) 21:22
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As usual. I know I'm not a big guy.
(I know I'm not a big guy. I laughed. )

You have no taste for looking into other people's homes, but you have a taste for wrestling others. Moreover, you have a good hobby of responding to whiners as well. Is there such a thing as a married couple who don't discuss things I feel sorry for you, my dear. I'm sorry you're having a hard time.

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#102
  • 大物 槇原
  • 2023/08/15 (Tue) 21:53
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TOTTAN is

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Ataka, no matter what time of the day.

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#103
  • 不条理
  • 2023/08/16 (Wed) 01:15
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Topi itself is unhappy. It's ironic.

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#106
  • 賢者
  • 2023/08/16 (Wed) 20:21
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#91
I guess people who think like you drive people to suicide on social networking sites.

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#107
  • 離婚天国
  • 2023/08/16 (Wed) 20:22
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Is there such a thing as a married couple that doesn't talk ?

There are plenty of them. Divorce in the family, for the sake of the children.

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#109
  • 昭和のおとっつぁん
  • 2023/08/17 (Thu) 07:47
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Husband works, wife doesn't want to live there, misses Japan.
No matter how we try to come to terms with the parallel lines, I wonder how we will come to terms with it.

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#112
  • 令和の母
  • 2023/08/18 (Fri) 08:06
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107

Showa must have limited insight because he has never been married.

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#114
  • 令和の乳
  • 2023/08/18 (Fri) 09:18
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I'm glad you were able to make it as a successful young businessman.

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#116
  • 令和の賃貸
  • 2023/08/18 (Fri) 09:38
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You think all married people are good looking ?
Nobody liked you.
thoho!

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#120
  • 昭和のおとっつぁん
  • 2023/08/18 (Fri) 15:15
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I thought the food bank was still doing ?
I thought it was only at Corona.

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#121
  • 昭和のおとっつぁん
  • 2023/08/19 (Sat) 07:41
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You won't increase your own income by worrying about strangers.

I need to think about working harder at my job and increasing my income instead.

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#124
  • World traveler
  • 2023/08/20 (Sun) 11:48
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If I can do what I love to do for a living, I don't have to work with them.
I am grateful to be paid for doing what I love.

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#125
  • 超富裕層
  • 2023/08/20 (Sun) 11:52
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There are plenty of sundowners every day who have no money.

There are fifty thousand aged billionaires who are working.

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#127
  • 昭和のおとっつぁん
  • 2023/08/20 (Sun) 15:49
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Ohashi Kioizumi used to host a show on the subject of play.
I envied him, but after I came to the US
I managed to earn money while playing after I got my permanent residency.
It was not hard until I got it because I could get something that I could use for the rest of my life.

Look at the world LOOK WORLD

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