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Economic DV ?

Problem / Need advice
#1
  • Yumi
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  • 2022/05/01 10:55

I am raising a child.
I am supposed to have joint marital property including my husband's salary, but he won't let me touch his accounts and asks me questions about every single credit card statement.
Is this considered domestic violence? ?
I can give him the money he needs to live, but I mean that he cannot manage our common property together.

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#7
  • 香奈子
  • 2022/05/01 (Sun) 23:05
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Topi
Does your husband wish to be a housewife ??

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#8
  • Yumi
  • 2022/05/02 (Mon) 01:41
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#Kanako
No, we both want to work together.
However, I was on an H4 visa for many years, so I couldn't work properly, and when I finally got my work visa, I started to raise my children. …
If we were in the US, we would have no problems, but if we can't manage our accounts together, it will be a problem when we return to Japan.

When you are back home temporarily, your money will fly away. But I can't pay cash (I was told not to use credit cards because of the interest rate), so I end up eating up all the money I had before I got married.
The last time I had to be hospitalized while back home, I had to rebuild the medical bills myself. When I asked her if she wanted to manage money with me, she said, "I don't trust you. My parents say that's fine too" repeatedly.
I wanted to work too, but I had no choice because I didn't have a visa.
But I still followed them because we were married. The longer I stay married, the poorer I become.
I have to be careful what I buy and it is not fun.
I can say that from now on I will be able to work so these problems will disappear, but even though we have yelled at each other and had big fights, I have no financial freedom and I seriously wonder … if it is okay to continue to live under one roof. Neither my husband nor I waste money. It's the way you say it.

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#9
  • 昭和のおとっつぁん
  • 2022/05/02 (Mon) 08:35
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What do you want to do in the end?

Do you just post your complaints and whines here?

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#10
  • 自利利他
  • 2022/05/02 (Mon) 09:10
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I need a stranger to tell me to leave him as soon as possible ?.

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#11
  • 浪費
  • 2022/05/02 (Mon) 10:32
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> When I told him I wanted to manage money with him, he said, "I don't trust him. My parents say that's fine too."

I don't trust him. I know you're right.
If it's the cost of going back to Japan to play, I have to ask my parents to pay for it instead of relying on my husband.

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