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Those who are caring for a parent.

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#1
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  • 2023/01/28 02:48

Please let me know your opinion.
I lived in the U.S. for 10 years, but my mother asked me to come back to Japan because she was worried about being alone in her old age.
I was single in the U.S. but worked hard.

I was taking care of my mother while working full time back in Japan, but my health started to deteriorate and I realized that I could not continue to work
at the same time, so I quit the company. I was working happily in my new position and was receiving a monthly salary of 250,000 take-home pay.

I looked for a part time job this time, but it is only 100,000 a month since I work 3 times a week.
I am not married so I have to take care of myself in the future and when I was getting 250,000 I was saving 100,000
a month.

I am quitting my job to take care of my parents, so I would like to receive the amount I would receive if I worked 250,000 - 100,000 a month ＝ 150,000 a month from my mother for expenses
but she does not understand. Why do I have to pay
when I don't pay rent and I even pay for her meals ？
? She doesn't think about my life after my mother dies. What will she want me to do
when I'm 60 years old, taking care of her in her current condition?

My mother received an inheritance from my father and has money to spare. But she doesn't want to go into a nursing home.
Is my claim strange ？?

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#22
  • イヤだな
  • 2023/01/29 (Sun) 07:38
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When I read things like this, I really don't want to be a caregiver. Even my own parents are disgusted with me. I want to pass away without bothering my children.

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#23
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  • 2023/01/29 (Sun) 08:35
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＞ My mother has never worked, yet she rounds up my mother and receives large sums of money from her.

I don't understand this sentence. Am I not reading comprehension?

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#24
  • 大変だね
  • 2023/01/29 (Sun) 09:15
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My sister is~ you know ？
Your sister must be to the point. I can't believe she's been getting money from your mother all these years, even though she's married. You are entitled to it since you are the one taking care of her. Why don't you talk to your ward office ？ I'm sure they can advise you.

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#25
  • その通りだと思います
  • 2023/01/29 (Sun) 11:44
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Yes.
You will lose money if you are stupid and honest.

You'll do better in life if you're to the point than if you're smart.

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#26
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  • 2023/01/29 (Sun) 17:45
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I think he feels that because the second daughter is ripping off money like that, it has made him wary ？
Now he feels that the eldest daughter has come to him with money, money, money.
For the old man, he feels that money is the only thing he can count on.
Topy is also worried about his own old age.
If your mother can afford it, let her do what she wants,
and Topi can go back to work for her own retirement ？
one of you might break.

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