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Unhappy children who inherited only the shortcomings of their parents.

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#1
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  • 2023/08/06 02:18

I wanted to post this because I wanted to ask you all to listen to the hard feelings I have been having for many years.
I would be happy to hear from anyone who has suffered through a similar situation as I have, and how they are trying to overcome it.

I am now in my 40's and worked for many years on both marriage and job hunting to move to LA, but ultimately my wish was not granted and I recently returned home.
I believe that the main reason why my life is not going well despite my best efforts is because
I inherited my mother's bad looks, which is rare in history, and my father's temperamental personality.
Being a woman and having poor looks is a fatal disadvantage. Her mother, who is in her 70s, is not good-looking, but she graduated from a top school and a first-class national university, is very intelligent, intellectually curious, and has a good way of doing everything, and has many friends with a likable personality. After giving birth, she became a housewife, but during her working years, she earned more money than her father. Because of this, she married her father, who is relatively wealthy, well-educated, and relatively good-looking. On the other hand, my father was smart and chose women based on the wavelength of conversation and their personalities, so he did not particularly care about their looks, but he is selfish, short-tempered, and quick-tempered. I am not as well-educated as my mother, and I don't feel the same yearning for a full-time housewife like my mother, and I don't like children either, so I longed for a single life in LA where I could be carefree. Since I was not good enough to get permanent residency on my own and did not have the good looks to get a man to marry me and support my permanent residency, I had to return home.

After returning home, I have found a full-time job, but it is almost a black company and does not seem to last.
I regret that I should have studied for more qualifications when I was young so that I could get a solid job. I am currently working on my studies, which I was not able to do when I was younger, and I am angry at my parents for not communicating the importance of getting a solid job when I was younger. Part of it is that my parents' generation did not place as much importance on women's financial independence, but all of their wishful thinking about me is off.
My appearance is not at a level that can be managed with petite plastic surgery.

Those who are not in my situation will not understand my situation.
I apologize for the length of this article, but I would be happy to hear from anyone who has overcome similar circumstances.

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#76
  • ゲゲゲ
  • 2023/08/14 (Mon) 09:27
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#72
100% agree.

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#77
  • 親の悪いとこ取り
  • 2023/08/14 (Mon) 10:28
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Mr. Curry is troubled and suffering. It is not fair to say that it is a problem of human nature or that it is her own fault.
I think there was no one or no opportunity to convey a positive message to Ms. Curry that she is pretty even if she is not beautiful or ugly, that it is okay if she worked hard even if she did not go to a good university, or that it is not too late to get a qualification. She is angry at her parents for not teaching her many things. I don't know if they didn't love her enough or if her parents just weren't good at talking and couldn't convey their love to her. However, Ms. Curry has been through a lonely and painful time. In such a situation, incomprehensive words or scolding from others can pierce the heart like a deadly weapon for a person with a weak heart. Perhaps Ms. Curry has not been treated kindly by others and has been treated unreasonably and coldly. If you have low self-esteem and self-esteem, it is difficult for people to like you, and you are stuck in a vicious cycle where people are cold and mean to you, and you become more and more disgusted with both people and yourself. Curry writes that she would be happy to hear from anyone who has been able to overcome similar circumstances. When I am distressed, weak, or depressed, I may not have the energy to do anything. There is no need to force me to reply or respond from the side.

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#79
  • はな
  • 2023/08/14 (Mon) 12:14
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I dared to comment in a harsh tone after a few or so.
Why is that? Because you made such a long and topical comment blaming others, and did not include anything about yourself.
Forcing a reply or response? If you start a topic by yourself and get no response, you must be the type of person who can't think about others at all.
No matter how polite the topix author's writing is, I think it's quite selfish, isn't it? Do you think that everyone but Topi lives an easy life without suffering? To be honest, I had thought as you did, #78, because it is honestly rare to get such defensive responses on such a topic. You know yourself well.

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#80
  • カレーライス
  • 2023/08/14 (Mon) 16:59
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#Yes, thanks to you, I say thank you to Japan every morning and evening.

It was because of the support of his parents that the Showa Otouta became a successful businessman at a young age and captured the American dream. It is only natural that he should be grateful.

It is not so easy when you hate your parents like Topi-dama does.

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#81
  • 紅夜叉
  • 2023/08/14 (Mon) 17:22
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I grew up without knowing what my parents looked like.
I wonder how my parents are doing, I miss them.

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