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#1
  • myu
  • mail
  • 2023/01/19 09:21

家族でホテルを予約する事になり悩んで悩んでいます
家族は私と夫、そこまでは問題ないのですが今回諸事情でコートに出廷するための滞在で私の義妹(夫の妹)も同じく遠方からやって来ることに。彼女は法理事務所で長く働いている(パラリーゴー)ので法律に多少詳しい人です。
そして今回のコートはverdict の為でジューリーが最初に加わりverdict (最終決定)迄少なくとも1週間、そして状況によってはよっては、それ以上になると言われてホテル滞在を10日に予約しました。
今の私の悩みは、義理の妹と10日も同じ部屋、並んだベッドで寝るのが嫌なんです。勿論ベッドは2つで彼女と同じベッドで寝るわけでないのですが。私は彼女が若い時から稀にみるデブちゃんで、そのせいか６０で未婚、性格もちょっと、今は手術して体型も普通の中年デブ程度になったんですけど。久しぶりにzoom で見た彼女の顔は「なんとアグリー！」という印象。見てるだけでうつになってしまいそうです。そんな彼女と10日も同じ部屋で過ごす(日中はコートですが)今から気が滅入ります。
皆さんはコンフェランス等で同じホテルルームに相部屋で他人と泊まった経験おありでしょうか？
どうでしたか？1日なら耐えても2日以上という経験をした方感想を伺いたいです。
今回の滞在は個人的に私の家族の事で義姉は私達家族の為に親戚の情で来てくれるという状況で彼女にホテル代を出させたくなく。もう予約してます(1king&1queenbed)
＄１６９per day,でも今、いっそセパレート　ルームをと検討してます。そうすると2部屋で多分トータル＄250はするので金額が大変ですが、10日の滞在で私の気持ちがうつになりよりはいいか？と思案中です。明日　金曜日迄ホテル予約キャンセル可能です。長々とすみません。
皆さんのご意見頂けたらと思います。

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#2
  • まぁまぁ
  • 2023/01/19 (Thu) 10:34
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別部屋で

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#5

皆さん　ありがとうございます。
計算したら別部屋だけで＄１８５０extra です
Oh No 嫌いな人の為にそんなお金使いたくない
彼女の顔が怖くなっていてびっくりでした。
普通のおじさんと一緒の部屋の方が　まだマシと思う位。
６０になるとキツイ顔になる？女性ホルモンが減少する？
ま人によりますが。我慢して同じ部屋とります。
モーテルとかランク下の案は、無理なんです。
何故かというと、コートに徒歩で行ける(4分位)ホテルは、このホテルともう一つ、そのホテルでも彼女用に$1500かかる。
モーテルは近くにないです。
そして　この地域はカリフォルニアと違い雪が降り去年はストームで町中がクローズ状態で大変でした。
Uber eatで夕食頼んだら3時間かかり、雪道をレンタカーも大変。でホテルは何処にも徒歩で行ける距離にしたんですUberに頼らず夕食も食べれる大きなモールも徒歩4分です。
ま、タブレットと睨めっこして、なるべく顔をあわさなように過ごします。

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#6
  • 性格悪い
  • 2023/01/19 (Thu) 13:44
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私この人と同じ部屋嫌だわ。太ったおばさんの方がマシ。

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#8
  • 俺もそう思う
  • 2023/01/19 (Thu) 15:23
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性格の悪い女（トピ主？）の方が顔が悪い女より百万倍嫌だね。

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#9
  • 痴呆老人
  • 2023/01/19 (Thu) 15:28
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夫はどの部屋なんよ？

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#10
  • 昭和のおとっつぁん
  • 2023/01/19 (Thu) 15:35
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身内の悪口は言わないほうが良いのでは。

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#10

#6#7
私もあなたと同じ部屋ごめんこうむる。
ネチネチイヤミが得意？な人はストレスで疲労
私の義妹は太ったおばさんて感じなら私は歓迎ですよ、なんてことなく和やかに過ごせる。彼女は、暗ーい雰囲気で、ちょっと普通の中年女性って感じでなく変に理屈ぽかったり、とにかく嫌なんです。夫も彼女が遠くから久しぶりに訪ねて来ても私に彼女のもてなしを任せ、彼は、うちにいてスポーツ放送観ているという感じ。親戚中に彼女のように太った人はいなく皆不思議がっています。(今は手術で肥満ではない)
今　又ホテル探索してたら、ホテルでなくアパートをレンタルしている(旅行者用B&なんとかというの近くにあるの見つけた。これだとセパレート　ルームになるから寝る時　ストレス感じないかなと検討中。

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#15
  • 知能障害？
  • 2023/01/19 (Thu) 17:05
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ちゃんとした日本語を書いているけど、変にキザっぽいのはどうして？
パラリーゴー？ふつう、 日本語で書いたらappleはアップル、
bicycleはバイサイクルと書いてアポーとかバイシコーなんて書くか？

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#17
  • Yorio
  • 2023/01/19 (Thu) 17:38
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逆の立場で考えて払わせたくないと思ってるからってそんな嫌々な感じで同じ部屋で寝るなら自分で別の部屋取る方がまし

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#19

＃ 14#15
Hi, Vivinavi proofreader
Thanks for your hard work today, many proofreaders who work for publishing companies are unemployed now.
I'm not a professional writer, so I'm free to do what I want. ？
I'm glad you got the point
＃ 17yorio
I really hope she does.
But I know she doesn't hate me
I don't mind sharing a room with her, so she just said "thanks for arranging the room".
＃ 9
My husband is in the same room with me, don't ask me the obvious ！
I'm staying in a hotel just the two of us with him, and there's an interruption. I think there is also a female mindset that says, "I'm not going to be there.
Well, I have a very bad character ？ I grew up as an only child, selfish and self-centered, I guess I haven't lost my childhood habits ？.

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#20
  • トホホ
  • 2023/01/20 (Fri) 07:55
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This topical person, Mama Gon ＝ Gonko, right ？
your writing is too characteristic.

I think your sister hates you too. You're not good at it, and they'll feel it.
If the sister is worth paying for another room, she will, if not, she should stop coming ？
or you have no choice but not to go ？.

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#26
  • 器量が悪いより性格の悪い方が百万倍もアグリーだ
  • 2023/01/21 (Sat) 13:59
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If you hate your sister-in-law so much, don't be stingy and get another room or refuse to appear in court, you know the answer
from the beginning. I think it is just
harassment （ of your sister-in-law ） to write down her appearance here. I doubt your
nerve to write such a blatantly derogatory comment about her personal qualities when she is here to
help you and your wife.
What is "professional writing"? What do you mean by "professional writing"?
In the first sentence, it seems as if you and your sister-in-law are staying in the same room alone.
At the end of the sentence, you get upset and say, "My husband is staying with me, don't ask me ！ the obvious question," and you are all alone with your theories.
"It's pronounced 'paralee-go' over here, but in Japan it's 'paralegal'."
She's good at blurting it out.
You are surely an aggrieved person who is told
"I don't like the way I feel （ about these things ） and then rebutted with sarcasm every single time.

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#27
  • うわー
  • 2023/01/21 (Sat) 14:03
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I don't even want to know Topi, let alone in a hotel room
And only people who say this are actually subtle in appearance.

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#28
  • ん？
  • 2023/01/21 (Sat) 14:29
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She's my sister-in-law ？ she's my sister ？

but she's not very good at Japanese, she's not very good at writing, and she's hard to read.

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#31
  • 綺麗
  • 2023/01/21 (Sat) 15:29
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You're the one asking your sister in law to do it. I don't want to get to know these people because they have too bad a personality.

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#32

#26
You're frustrated because people talk back. I get it, but it's because you're the one who negatively pokes fun at people ！
and they boomerang back at you. You have a problem with the character of the person who is so nettlesome about the use of words that don't matter.
First of all, please review your own faults. Also, if you read the text, it says I'm going with my husband from the beginning. If it was just me and my sister-in-law, I wouldn't order a king bed room.
Then the same person wrote ？ maybe, but there are reasons why people don't like people not only because of their looks, but also because of traumas done to her, so there are reasons to avoid them, there is a history that others don't understand.
As an example, when my kid was a baby, he choked on his food and I may not have handled it calmly, but she quickly turned him upside down and took care of it and he was fine. I appreciate that much.
But then I saw her telling her friends about it, and I lost respect for her personality when I saw her sneering at me for being stupy about it.
And many other things, there is a certain sarcasm and meanness in my in-laws' family, and now that I live away from East Coast, I am at peace, but this time I feel pain or "why are you coming ？ don't come" to have her accompany us for 10 days because of our family matters. But I can't say that to my husband, so I have to put up with it and go along with her. So now we have a separate room at the same hotel, and she sleeps on the sofa bed. The price is also a little cheaper than the first hotel.
Other people have recommended that I get her a separate room, but ＄ 130 to ＄ 160 per night for 10 days, which would cost her ＄ more than 1300. I want to spend my money carefully, if I'm rich or not
In any case, I think I'll just continue to exchange negativity, so I'll see how it goes and request deletion of the topic.

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#48
  • ゲゲゲ
  • 2023/01/22 (Sun) 00:20
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Stupy
Suit
lol

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#51
  • 最低
  • 2023/01/22 (Sun) 07:57
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There is also a problem with the character of the person who is so nettlesome about the use of words that don't matter.
Do you know what a knife of words is ？ In fact, you were probably hurt by what your sister-in-law said to you.
You are childish, irresponsible, why don't you learn a little more than fighting ？ then you won't be called an idiot. I think the majority of people would have a negative opinion of you. Selfish, self-centered, no independence. You also argue with all the opinions of others.
For the sake of your family, you can refuse your sister in law.

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#54
  • Myu
  • 2023/01/22 (Sun) 09:14
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A series of posts from #36 to #47
Scary 😳
My opinion Don't go crazy with your rebuttals ！

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#61
  • 傍聴席
  • 2023/01/22 (Sun) 18:58
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There hasn't been a single opinion on the part of Topix so far.
What about the cost of the room, the king bed, etc.
Those are things that you and your husband can resolve by talking to each other, and you don't need to talk to others about it.
You ask for help in court, but speak ill of your looks and personality in public.
This is so selfish. You still linger on
badmouthing your relatives who have come a long way to help you, and that is just ungrateful and shameless.
You still don't seem to realize
that you are the type of person people hate the most. Your words boomerang back at you.
"First of all, I want you to review your own shortcomings."

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#62
  • 不快な人
  • 2023/01/22 (Sun) 21:46
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You don't want to associate with someone who bad-mouths other people who have different personalities, looks, and values. They don't realize that bad-mouthing is not about the person who said it, but about the person who is saying it.

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