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• 元日本人A
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• 2022/05/23 (Mon) 10:59
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My wife and I are both former Japanese, but we emigrated to Japan once but ended up coming back to the US. I hope this experience will be of help to you. Before we went there, we both spoke Japanese, watched Japanese TV, and ate only Japanese food, so we thought there should be no problems living in Japan. However, when I started living there, I was confronted with the unique Japanese （ way of interacting with people, especially the elderly ）, and I realized that I am no longer Japanese. In Japan, I lived in an assisted-living facility for the elderly. The facilities, staff, and treatment were perfect and comfortable. However, many of the residents were rather condescending and elegant, and I found it difficult to get along with them in an American-style casual manner. My wife had never lived in an apartment （ or condo ） before, and this may have had some influence on her. At first, we tried to fit in, but after two or three years, it became too much, and we decided to move while we still had the energy. I decided to move to Hawaii. I bought a small house and live in a small community. I had a corona disaster right after I came here, so that also had an impact on me. ） If one of us needs nursing care, we will have to find a care home here, but as long as I am able to move around and drive, I plan to stay here for a while longer. My children want me to come closer, but since they are all on the East Coast, I don't want to stay in a cold place, so I chose to stay here. （ Before returning to Japan, I lived in San Jose. Learned the hard way ）.

• ０００
• 2022/05/23 (Mon) 11:14
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＞ I myself am here unless I get divorced because my husband is American.

What if he divorces me ？?

• Gardena_23
• 2022/05/23 (Mon) 13:20
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Indeed, it would be difficult to return to Japanese life if you live abroad for a long period of time. Japan is the best place to be, where you can make an occasional visit and be treated as a customer.

• 50/50
• 2022/05/23 (Mon) 13:27
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Whether in Japan or America, there are jerks

Mr. 2
After all, if you live in Hawaii and don't get involved with people, why not do so in Japan ？
Was there any particular reason for you to be different?

When I retire, I'd like to live in a convenient place in the country where the cost of living is as low as possible, but if I went to a rural area in the US, it would be hard to live because of racism, so I'd still have to save my money or it would be in rural California.

• ゴン子
• 2022/05/23 (Mon) 14:13
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#2 Ex-Japanese
Thank you for your valuable experience 😊
Even old people are different from each other, but you may be able to meet some who are kind and comforting when you go to the countryside. I think it's rare 🤔
I can't forget the atmosphere of the old man who was a former employee of the furniture shop in the program "family history" of TV Japan in March about Mr. Takanori Jinnai's father.
I recorded it and kept it to watch the old man again
I was having a hard time with my child at the time and thought to myself, if only there was someone like him around, I would casually wander around and bother him every day ！. He probably wouldn't give me any advice on my problems, but would just gently pat me on the shoulder with a kind smile and say, "Yeah, yeah, I see. Already, just imagining that made me weep. Maybe if I actually met her, I would shriek and cry as if I were a little girl again.
It was an experience that made me think "I should live in Japan ？" in just a minute or two. Sorry for the long sentence.